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colleysmill · 16/07/2012 22:29

Has anyone had a child that seems to know when they are weeing but is really inconsistent on a day to day basis? And refuses to wear pants at all?

Ok this is the 3rd time I've typed this out as when I press create it hasn't work! And I would really appreciate some advice so might not risk putting all details into this post.

Ds is nearly 3 and is really variable on a day to day basis. One day its brilliant and he uses the potty all day, the next point blank refuses to the point of screaming hysterics. Nursery have also found this too and are now reluctant to encourage him too much as he gets so upset. At night though for the last 6 weeks before bed he has quite happily wee'ed in the potty and collect his sticker even if he's refused all day and brushed off all rewards.

He also refuses to wear pants. At all. He takes them off and then stuffs them down the back of radiators rather than wear them - all perfectly nice pants he chose but he just won't wear them. He'd much rather wear a pull up and will chose that over pants. I tried him in the buff and it varied from not acknowledging it to aiming into puddles!

We had one good attempt which he was dry for 5 days but which was scuppered by a holiday and we ended up in pull ups again. Hourly toileting has always turned into a battleground and stickers/rewards again aren't consistently enough to get him into pants.

So I'm thinking of abandoning the pull ups and go back to cloth. Today he's worn a cloth nappy and still used the potty all day. Tomorrow - well who knows!

Any advice gratefully received

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colleysmill · 16/07/2012 22:33

hurray it worked!! Grin

I should mention that this has been going on now for about 5 months.

I'm not sure whether to carry on as we are or whether to push through the "pants" battle.

Thanks

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Trazzletoes · 18/07/2012 14:28

Hi, I'm only in the early stages of potty training so my advice is probably not worth much, but can't you just not give him the option of pull ups? (This may well be easier said than done!) - talking to my HV she advised me to just get DS straight in to pants and not go back unless he absolutely refused to potty train. Sounds like your DS can do it, if he can manage for a day... Perhaps just stick him in the pants, if he takes them off, he takes them off...

colleysmill · 18/07/2012 21:36

Thank you for replying.

Gone back to nappies the last two days as he hasn't been well with quite loose movements so seemed far too mean to push it!

My sneaky suspicion is that he probably could be trained but he doesn't want to - although none of rl friends have experienced this. I don't want to label him but it does seem that he is far too busy to bother - I guess he will get there in time?

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