toilet training aargh!

[3kidsandnotsane]

My daughter is 3 years and one month old, she is showing all the signs of being ready for toilet training (and has for some time.... this is not the first attemp!) yet the only thing holding her back is the fact that she simply does not want to sit on the potty or toilet.
I have tried everything, rewards (stickers, chocolate etc) making the potty personal to her(stickers)..... lots of fun, stories on the potty, dolly has a potty all that kind of thing.
Yet she kicks and screams at the suggestion of it now, she was doing well a couple of weeks ago but has really gone against it.She keeps asking for her nappy back on :(
I dont just want to give up as I know she is ready and she starts nursery in September.
Any ideas? do I back off for a bit or keep going and hope she will just do it?

When she doesn't want to use the toilet is it because she's scared of it? Have you one of the inserts you can get that make a regular toilet child-sized? I know with my DS it helped that he frequently saw me using the toilet (I've forgotten what privacy feels like since having kids!) and decided he'd like to do the same. Do you let her see you use the loo? Might she be more motivated if she thinks she is using the "big-girl" toilet like mummy does?

Or have you any friends who are also potty-training successfully who could bring their child round for a play-date with an ulterior motive?

My daughter is 3 years 4 mths and also hates the potty and the toilet. We went cold turkey three weeks ago and it is constant accidents, she holds herself till she literally explodes. We have tried stickers, bribes etc etc. Any help would be appreciated as she starts nursery in Sept and I return to full time work the first day of the summer holidays - 2 weeks and 5 days and counting

My DD (3 this month) is exactly the same. We are on day 11 of our 3rd attempt at potty training her and so far we have had only 1 wee on the potty and that was at nursery so I didn't even get to see it! She was holding onto everything but now seems happy to have accidents so I'm not sure if that's progress or not?! She will sit on the potty...for about 2 seconds and then says finished and gets up. If I try and make her sit for longer even with stories, games etc, she wriggles about and it's clear she won't do anything. I know she has control but I don't know how to get her to sit on the potty and let go. She has a twin sister who has been potty trained for 6 months so she has an example of how to do it constantly at hand. So far today we've had 2 wee accidents and 2 poo accidents with no attempt to tell me beforehand she needed to go. Am at wits' end. Not sure whether to carry on with this attempt or give up. But I think if we give up we are just back to stage one again and next time we try she'll remember we gave up before.

Sorry, no useful advice to give, just in same boat :(

We had progress a wee in the toilet x No intervention just went and di it on her own x

The key sentence is this

'yet the only thing holding her back is the fact that she simply does not want to sit on the potty or toilet.'

It really is easier to just wait until they are emotionally ready. My dd is 3.4. I tried traning her at 2.7 and again at 3.1 but no amount of bribery or me sitting her on there worked and she always ended up in tears. Nursery and the health visitor told me to leave it until she took the initiative so I did and she has just started doing it on her own this week. I have done nothing - she took herself from the beginning. She said 'I don't like wet nappies' and that was that.

I think the same they will do it wen they are ready. She went on the toilet again today all day on her own now she has the confidence and it was her choice and she is 3.6 now.