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When do I admit defeat?

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GoingPotty12345 · 15/06/2012 09:56

I started training DD1, 2.5, this week. We are now on day 3 and it is not going well. The only wees/poos in the potty have been when she's been sitting on the potty for ages because I'm making her sit on it every 10-15 minutes, sometimes for up to half an hour at a time (sometimes for 10 minutes, but if I think there must be something coming - e.g. after a meal, I'm making her wait - she's watching tv to keep her on there). There's been just 1 proactive wee in the potty in 3 days. That gave me some hope that we could get through this, but there's been no further success since (that was on day1). She's a bright, articulate girl and has been showing all the signs for ages but I couldn't train before now due to arrival of DD2. I'm back at work in a few weeks so this feels like my best chance - it will be much harder to train her when she's back at nursery. She gets the mechanics of using the potty, has read lots of books, wants to be a big girl and wear big girl knickers etc. But I'm just not sure she really realises when she's going to wee, or poo. We've had dozens of accidents. She seems to wee all the time - sometimes 3 or 4 times in an hour, or more. I guess if she was using the loo properly these little wees would group together into one big one. Also she was really predictable and did poos at the same time every day so I thought we'd at least be able to 'catch' these in the potty over the first few days, but actually she's now started to poo at random times and these have all been in pants. It is a nightmare. I'm getting quite depressed and down about it. Haven't left the house all week, which can't be good for me, DD1 or DD2. Lots of people who've been through this before have told me to stick at it and it will just 'click'. Will it? Or do I need to admit that it's not going to work this time and come back to it in a few weeks or months. Have run out of pants, they are all in the wash (that's 14 pairs!) so we can't go out today, again! Have been in tears about it and had a massive row with DH this morning because we're both stressed about it.

Sorry, not really sure what I'm asking really, just whether you think it could improve and is worth sticking it out or if it seems like he's just not got the bladder control yet.

Thanks

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
GoingPotty12345 · 15/06/2012 09:56

whether she's just not got the bladder control yet.

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Raspberrytorte · 15/06/2012 10:18

I feel your pain, I started my little boy 2.10 on Sunday and it's been a loooooong week. However we have had a bit of progress and actually that happened at nursery yesterday (he goes one day a week) it was seeing his friends and sitting down next to them and the going to the potty/toilet routine they have there. I thought that we'd come home in the 6th change of clothes but he only had 2 accidents all day, came home and wee-ed on potty. This morning we just had a wee again on the potty. My DD trained at 2.6 and she was much easier, some children just are, but poos took her longer than wees so be patient with those. If I was you'd I would give it over the weekend on wees (brace yourself with poos for a little while longer), my DS could hold wee in but it seems to be taking him longer to learn to release it...we are on day 6 now and it only happened yesterday.
If after the weekend you are both fed up then pop her back in pull ups and then try again in another couple of weeks but don't despair over nursery as that seems to have been the breakthrough point for us!....in fact in my dreams I send him there full time next week and he comes back totally potty trained!!!
But I know how down you feel so hugs

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