2.5 year old can force one out just to get a reward...so where do I go from here?!!

[PipCarrier]

DS 2.5 years old, displaying all the signs of being ready to tt and crucially - got up today and point blank refused to wear a nappy, wanted to wear pants.

We had a successful few hours with no accidents, going on the potty, then he seemed to lose interest and started weeing whenever and wherever.

He wees often, every 10 minutes or so. I then introduced a sticker chart for wees on the potty. The problem is, he can wee 'on demand'...so he did a wee, go a sticker, ran straight back to potty and did another wee, got another sticker, ran straight back to potty...etc etc...

Advice please! TIA x

If you want to do rewards, do a reward for dry pants instead of wees on potty.

Can you try instead of for every wee do ok if you do all your wees before breakfast, before we go to the shop, before we brush our teeth and gradually increase the time so it is do all your wees every day! Not too sure if he would understand that or if it would work!! I haven't started potty training yet have got all that fun to come and will probably be asking the same questions in a few months

Or just do what rubirosa said

Not sure he would understand either way but I will give it a go! So I'll just say if you keep your pants dry until breakfast/snacktime/lunchtime etc... will give it a try!

Goodluck

I don't think it would carry on like this though. I think he'd get bored eventually and go off to play.

You could try distracting him with activities etc straight after his first wee. O

He didn't get bored - he carried on until two packs of stickers ran out :(

I feel mean to do it the other way because if he does have an accident I would be punishing him for it by not giving him a reward...he's got a nappy back on at the moment, by his own choice.

DS was the same, always able to squeeze a bit out in return for praise/reward. He decided he wanted to wear big boy pants himself but had loads of accidents when at nursery (none/very few at home)

What worked for him was being naked on the bottom half with several potties about the house so that there was less for me to clear up if he did have an accident, and some pants with dinosaurs on who would be very sad if they got wet

What worked for me when I trained DS when he was 2.5 was using a star chart AND a Haribo for every wee and poo.Although you might worry about him "earning" too many sweets on demand, the novelty of the reward wore off after about 5 days but he carried on doing wees and poos in the potty , and very quickly on a toilet at playgroup & nursery and then even in public toilets at the park & in shops without the need for a special loo seat etc.We are 6 weeks in with maybe only 3 accidents since the 3rd day.I constantly reminded him he would get a star and a sweetie for every wee or poo and he would then say "look, I need a star and a sweetie now" whenever he did anything.I still use the sweetie as a bribe to get him to wee if I know we are going to be out for a long time in the car etc.He is usually a fairly disobedient 2 year old, I was amazed how easy the whole thing was, and I can definitely recommend the bribe technique!

Thanks for all your advice.

I have tried all suggested and it has now progressed to him just having no interest whatsoever in doing one on his potty, he finds it hilarious to wee wherever he likes.

He points to what it wants to wee on and begins before I can dive in with the potty.

I offered sweets for every wee which worked for about an hour, then he didn't care so I ended up with a sugar-rushing toddler weeing all over the place!!

If I put a nappy back on him, I turn my back for a second and he's ripped it off and is weeing wherever he fancies.

I tried the "please keep george pig dry" thing with the pants and he just giggled, pointed at poor old george, said wee wee and away he went!!

What now?!! I think he's clearly not ready to wear pants and do it all on the potty, but at the same time he doesn't want to wear a nappy either!

No advice on the pants / nappy side of it, but I'd say this early on, being able to have a small wee, and then stop, and force more out 5 mins later is showing good bladder control! At least thats what I was telling my self when we were on 7-8 poos a day.

We did raisins or grapes (just 2-3) for wee's, which I felt OK about handing out frequently. Choc for poos.

I dislike them - we've had issues with leaks, so have gone back to nappies, but might pull ups be classed as pants for DS, but not too much of an issue with accidents - or would he take them off for weeing?

I HATE potty training. And I've got to do it all again with no2.....