So the pressure's mounting - DS is 2 years 3 months and nursery have asked to get started with potty training. He's very verbal, counts to 20 blah blah which nursery seem to think because they think he's bright he's ready for potty training.
Problem is I cannot get near him when he is doing a poo because since about 18 months his poo behaviour is this: running from room to room shouting Go Away Mummy trying to find a corner to hide in. Now there is less running from room to room but he will go into the bedroom and has even tried to shut the door on me. I don't follow him (unless there is something unsafe in another room and I want to check first) and I just say OK tell me when you're finished and we can change your nappy. But if I try to get near him he gets very distressed and has cried before, really sobbing.
Now I have never (I think) given the impression of any need for shame at all! He sees me on the toilet loads and wanders in and out of the bathroom if I'm in there, I have shown him dirty nappies (as a prelim warm-up I read about to get towards potty training), I have shown him the toilet and flushing, he now has 2 potties he won't sit on.
Has anyone had any experience with this 'shame' business? I kind of think it's natural to just want to go into a corner so I don't find that bit unsettling - more the frantic need to hide from me.
Grateful for any experiences/advice/suggestions on how to deal with this please