Do I need to remind her constantly?

[SuzysZoo]

please can anyone who has potty trained a 2/3 year old tell me if I need to keep reminding them to go to the loo or not? I am trying to train DD but I am like a broken record every half an hour - "do you need a wee?" - shall I just shut up and let her work it out herself? I can't remember what I did with the older two!!

Yup - it;s constant asking "do you need a wee", "do you need to sit on the potty"?, it feels like your doing it forever ( well I did with my dd), but guessing it wasn't that long before she started to ask for the potty herself.

I don't need to check with dd - she is making it very very obvious, but is REFUSING to sit on the potty despite being clearly uncomfortable so I am trying not to nag even though I know she is going to have an accident. Grrrr.

Is it better not to nag then MakeHay? I really don't know what to do. If I ask her she almost always says no. does it just turn into a power game? That said, I don't really want wee everywhere.........

I would just tiMe reminders first of all and take note of how many times she actually goes. You can then have an idea of how long you are likely to have between each wee. Also take note of how many poos she does a day and if they are at similar times, that way you can vary your reminders. You will be fine.

I would just tiMe reminders first of all and take note of how many times she actually goes. You can then have an idea of how long you are likely to have between each wee. Also take note of how many poos she does a day and if they are at similar times, that way you can vary your reminders. You will be fine.

Suzy - I guess it depends on the child and your own stress levels. Dd is very stubborn and I think she is digging in her heels - she always says no (disclaimer: we have only been doing this seriously for 2 or 3 days, with yesterday being a disaster) so I am trying to let her work it it for herself. She is like me, and I know that for me, nagging just makes me start to get stubborn even if I know it's for my own good!

And yes, wee everywhere....yesterday she was busting all day, but doing little bits at a time to relieve the discomfort!

Hi, I trained my son when he was 22 months. Rather than ask him if he needed to go, I reminded him to tell me when he wanted to go. And yes, all the time. "remember to tell me if you need to go, ok?" The difference is subtle but I feel it puts the power (and responsibility) with them, perhaps they feel less hassled? They have to be reminded, somehow, for sure.

Oh - that's a great idea Purpledragon - it does seem less nagging to put it that way!!

It also allows them to 'take charge' preparing them better for post training. They need to learn to listen to their body not learn to listen to you prompting them. This way you are reminding them to check themselves and over time they need reminding less and less.