Will not pooh on potty or toilet, only in pants or pull-ups. How did you get you child past this ?

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My DH is nearly 4 and start school in September. In Feb 2011 she started to pooh withold. She was 2 and 8 months. This was caused by one bout of constipation during a viral infection, but the pooh witholding continued for several months. So our GP asked us to delay potty training until the pooh witholding had stopped. She was on meds for most of 2011, and finally in Dec 2011 (3.5 years) we started potty training. She was very, very resistant, but she will now go for a wee in the potty and has occasional accidents. However, she will not go for a pooh in the potty or loo. She did a pooh once, last year before we started properly training her, and i think it was just a coincidence that i out her on at the right time, before i gave her a bath. But since then nothing. I have tried incentives but nothing. If i let her do it in her pants, eventually she starts to withold, and we revert back to pull-ups when she gets tummy ache after witholding. However, over the next few days we are going to try to keep her in pants for as long as possible and see what happens. Has anyone else been through this ? How did you get past it ? I need some stories to motivate me please.

I meant my DD not DH. Sorry, this is what potty training does to my brain.
DH is fully potty trained already.

You can try a gradual desensitisation by lining a potty with a cheap disposable nappy so that it feels like a pull-up and secure. When she is comfortable with this you can be a bit devious and cut a slit in the nappy so that the poo goes into the potty, you can place a cut nappy on the childs toilet seat as well to facilitate the transfer to the loo. She has the secure feeling of going in the nappy which will make her more willing to try, and once she has accepted that it doesn't hurt, and is no longer scary, she will be happier to use the potty/loo.

I think if she can get past the fear of pain when she poos, and the feeling of something dropping away from her she will finally relax with the potty/loo.

Girlywhirly, thanks i'll give that a go. I've tried before but she refused, but she may respond if i try again a few times with the nappy lining the potty. Fingers crossed.