Hi all,
DD is 3yr10mo. She toilet trained at about 2yr10mo. She got the hang of it after a few weeks of trials and tribulations. She was completely dry and night to begin with, which we treated as a bonus but weren't expecting it to always be like that.
Sure enough after a few weeks and a big change in her life (Daddy went away to work for few months) she started to bed wet - virtually every night. Didn't think it was a big deal, we just use pull-ups and night and I assured her she would get the hang of it eventually.
She's always had the odd accident here and there during the day. Especially when she's tired, busy playing, distracted etc. But in the last few months it has become gradually more and more common.
So at the moment, she has an accident on average every day, sometimes 3-4 times a day.
The main points I ought to mention are
- We only have an upstairs loo and I get the impression she doesn't like going upstairs on her own. I mentioned to her to let me know when she needs a wee if she doesn't want to go on her own and I'll come upstairs and potter around while she wee's. It works sometimes. Other times she'll happily go alone.
-She more often than not waits until the very very last minute before going upstairs to wee, she's been dancing and jumping and wriggling around before hand and it really is obvious she needs to go
-If I prompt her and say "*, I think you ought to go for a wee" she goes straight into denial and says she doesn't. We then have a little bicker which ends up in me pleading with her to go - sometimes she'll give in and go - she screams at me to let her go alone and then she stands in front of the toilet, panics and wees on floor.
-If I don't prompt her, and ignore it to see what happens, she'll ALWAYS wait until the last minute and then she 9 times out of 10 gets there too late, panics and wees on floor.
-Sometimes she ignores it so much that she appears to have just forgotten why she's jumping around and will just wee on the spot wherever she is in the house
However, If we're out walking or in a shop, she'll give me plenty of warning and I've never known her to have an accident out in public.
But she does have accidents at the moment, every day she goes to preschool.
My question is: Does this sound just like a regular blip that will go away given enought time? Is there anything I can do to help her?
I'm so sick of clearing up puddles. Its been a year.
I've tried ignoring it, saying "oh dear" never mind, getting disappointed and talking to her calmly about what happened, I've even got quite angry at her and no approach seems to work. We've used reward charts for dry days, we've used money earnt for each wee in the loo. We've tried stickers, the LOT.
I worry that she's going to start school in September and will still be doing it and will feel very concious and it will become a HUGE thing.
Any suggestions? ...and why does she deny she needs to go???