Advice please. Day 3. Not one wee in potty. DD seems stressed. Give up?

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This is the second time I've done this. I went cold turkey with DS and he got the idea quite quickly so used the same method with DD (2.7). She seemed keen when we discussed pants but I think the whole experience has really stressed her out. She tells me she does not like the potty and wants her nappy but then asks for pants because she likes being a big girl. Should I just give up for now and try again in June? Part of me thinks she needs to get used to the feeling of being wet so she can make the choice of going on the potty but another part of me thinks I messing up (so to speak!) and making her really stressed because she isn't ready.

No advice, but exactly the same boat! DD is 2.3, asks for potty, puts dolly on it, talks about the toilet and being a big girl, asks for knickers, but won't sit on the potty, and the odd few times she has (with the promise of stickers), nothing has happened. Not sure what to do?!

It's really tricky to work out whether keeping going will help her gain confidence slowly or the reverse. Sounds like you have been doing all the right things with dolly stressheadric. Good luck.

It takes most of them time to get the concept properly and I would keep going for a week to 10 days. Absolutely no nappies unless it's sleep time. Sweetie reward for anything that goes in the pot. My daughter had v little success in the first 3-4 days and just as I was about to give up she suddenly got it and pretty much everything went in the potty, bar a few accidents.

Hi thanks for your advice scrummy mummy but after another very difficult day I put her back in nappies and she was so happy. I did think about it carefully as i know we will have to go through this again soon. It has been an introduction. I will put the potty away and try again in a month or two.

Sounds like you're all happier leaving it for the moment, then.Good luck when you start again. :)

My daugheter is 2.5 and the same thing happened. I gave up on the intensive potty training and am now just giving her some nappy free time each day but not making a big deal of it and giving her lots of praise for just sitting on the potty. I'm hoping this will get her to want to use it but if it doesn't I'm going to try 'training' her again in a few months. There is no point persuing it if they are stressed in my opinion. My DD got so stressed she got very constipated and got a poo actually stuck and tore her bum a bit bless her. Giving it another week or more after that happened was certainly not an option for me as it was clear she was way too stressed over it.

Have you tried setting an egg timer? So she sits on potty when it rings (start with every 15 minutes and gradually increase) and if nothing happens, no big deal but if she does a wee she gets a smartie..?

I tried DS1 at the same age and my HV said give up as he wasn't interested at all. I then did him as he turned 3 years and had no problems - no accidents and just needed reminding if he hadn't been in a while. DS2 was even easier. I again left it until he just turned 3 years and he didn't even need reminding.

I firmly believe that if they are ready for something then it will happen without too much of a challenge. My friend insisted on bringing her daughter to mine at the age of 2.3 years in knickers as she was "potty training" and I had more wet carpets from her than both my boys combined - and a very stressed mother who had to be told that her daughter was not ready.

DD wasn't interested in the potty at all (except putting her dolly in it), even up to a month ago. She is now in pants and we've gone 2 weeks with no accidents.

It took a day or so to get her using the potty (with a bit of chocolate button assistance!) but she wanted to wear pants, which is probably one of the deciding factors. She loves her pants so much she doesn't want to get them wet, nor wear a nappy (even the gorgeous Itti Bittis ). She's never had a poo accident and apart from the first two days, she's not had a wee accident either.

DD is 2.8yo and I think if she hadn't started using the potty within a couple of days of trying, we would have stopped and left it a bit. However, DD put herself on the potty the first time she wee-ed in it and ran in shouting "I've done it"