Nursery put my DD back into hr nappy.

[Dottymcdot]

I have been training DD for a week, she was just vaguely starting to get it, it has been hard work and she is a little resistant. She is 2.8 so I think old enough to train. So she went into nursery today in knickers, I told them what we had been doing at home, and when I came to pick her up she had been in a nappy all day.

I spoke to the staff and they said that she had been crying and refusing to go onto the potty and so instead of encouraging her they put her into a nappy as they have a lot of children to look after so could not do it with her

I am not happy, showed my disapproval politely, and left. How is she ever going to get it if at first refusal the nursery just cave and put a nappy on? They told me that she is still very little.

DD1 trainined earlier than this and I do not think DD2 very little to train,

What do you think?

I would be livid, completely livid. It's your choice not theirs and if you told them what you were doing then they should respect that.

2.8 is not too young, probably rather average really.

Exactly I am livid, DD2 is not the easiest to train but even so.

I did also tell them that she had been out of nappies all week, school run and everything.

Def not too young my ds trained at 2.7. I would be really cross also.

My nursery did that. I reported them to ofsted. Drastic! But necessary.
It is a terrible thing to do. My dd had been dry 3 weeks when they decided to go for a walk to park. She asked for a wee and was told to do it in the nappy.
She got three urine infections which I cannot prove was down to them but I was pretty damn sure.
Needless to say we had a big row and they failed to see why I was so cross. I took her out not long after.

Welllll. Depends on whether your happy with the rest of the care there. Did you send in multiple changes of clothes? hopefully you can get back on track over the weekend. Maybe bring the "home" potty to nursery?

What a lazy nursery! Are they lazy in other respects?

I gave them three pairs of spare knickers and changes of clothes. They are normally really good at the nursery DD1 was there from 6 months old until she started school and then DD2 been there since 9 months old.

DD2 was not very well last Summer and they were fabulous, she had reactive arthritis and although she did not go in and stayed at home, she was invited to come and play with them during garden time. They were really caring. This is what makes this really annoying as they are usually very very good.

I will have to keep her in here as I am planning to send her to the preschool attached to DD1's school this Autumn (they don't know this though).

That is poor. I would speak to the manager. Don't speak to OFSTED unless you have definately decided to change nursery. They should not undermine your efforts to potty train her. You need a discussion with them on what should be done if she refuses to use the potty. At dd nursery if a child refuses to use the potty they are just allowed to wet themselves. Children don't like getting wet and quickly learn to ask for the potty or to use the potty when suggested.

dd was out of nappies at night at 2.8 years. It is not too early to make a serious attempt. If the nursery want to take the childen for a walk in the park then they need to take a travel potty.

This is what I think too. Although this was not about a trip to the park, this was another poster saying this about their own nursery. DD2 was in the nursery all day, she is a bit of a drama queen and cried a lot so the nursery out her back into her nappy. This happened in the morning and so she was in nappies all day yesterday. It is bad on two levels, DD2 now knows that to get her own way at nursery all she has to do is scream until they give in, and the obvious potty issue. As I said she is a little resistant but had started to do much better, and to underline this point, today she did a wee and then poo in the potty without prompting from me, AND she was dry through the night.

Put not out

I'm really surprised at that BUT had you given them any warning that you were planning on starting potty training? I only ask as I mentioned to nursery last Weds that we were going to start potty training DD (2.5) at the weekend and was told that they would not accept her into nursery in pants unless we'd had a face to face meeting to discuss "strategy". At first I thought that this was mad but, after the meeting, could see their point. They don't like to have more than one child in a room in the very first stages of potty training at the same time as it does take up more of their time; they wanted to know whether we were planning on rewarding her so they knew whether to or not; they wanted to know what we were going to do with nap times etc. We also had to take in 10 spare pairs of pants, leggings, socks & spare shoes - they've clearly had some disasters in the past!
This week, they have been really supportive although I have noticed that when they put DD in a nappy for her nap its actually put on before they have lunch rather than just for nap time. I have some sympathy for this as the dining room isn't close to the loos and presumably lunchtime is chaotic enough without a member of staff having to take DD to the loo repeatedly.

Sorry to be off topic Dotty, but your poor DD with reactive arthritis :( Hope she is better now.