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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Potty training- does it depend on language skills?

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SunSoakedStone · 08/03/2012 07:45

DS is 2.3 so holding no hopes for potty training just yet. Of course 'all his friends' are well on the way to dryness, at least during the day.

I still think this is quite young and sniffs of Competitive Parenting Exaggeration Syndrome, but I have noticed his speech isn't as developed as his mates. Maybe the younger a child gets the language to describe potty needs, the easier it is to train them?

Anyone's experience confirm this?

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belindarose · 08/03/2012 07:47

Mine totally refutes it, I'm afraid. DD's toilet skills are lagging considerably behind her communication (arguing) skills. (2.6)

Tillyscoutsmum · 08/03/2012 07:51

I suppose its a combination of bladder control, personality and communication skills. DS is also 2.3 months. He has been taking his nappy off and insisting he sits on the toilet occasionally for about 6 months, but he's never actually done anything on there ! His language skills are pretty good.

DD's language skills were ok but probably not as good as DS's but she showed no inclination at all to toilet train. I did it when she was 2.4 (because I wanted to get it sorted before DS arrived) and she was dry within 24 hours.

jetstar · 08/03/2012 07:51

My dd is just like yours Belinda shows vey little interest and is the same age, but is very clear in her views otherwise

south345 · 08/03/2012 07:54

Ds is 2.2 and will sometimes strip off and go to the toilet if he needs a wee but is nowhere near being dry.

Thetokengirl · 08/03/2012 07:56

Toilet trained all of mine between about 2.7 and 2.10 yo. My DS2 was the easiest and quickest and his language skills lagged severely behind the other two, so no correlation here.

TiddlerIsTardy · 08/03/2012 08:02

DD1 (2.3) has really good language skills, can talk at length about which pants she is going to wear whenn she is toilet trained, but is nowhere near being so!

shelley72 · 08/03/2012 08:15

hmm not sure there is a correlation ime - DS (now 4) has always been quite good language wise. however he just was not ready to do the whole potty thing and resisted all attempts of bribery. then one day, he must have been 3.4, he just 'got it' and had very few accidents since. night times he is still in pull ups though, though we are not stressing about this too much yet.

DD otoh can only say about 3 words at 21 mo and yet she has been very forthright in letting us know when she needs changing (will even start getting undressed) and has been doing this since just over a year old. so i am thinking that although she is way different to her brother in her language skills, she will be 'dry' before he was.

i am quite a lazy laid back parent and i think that they will get these things when they are ready. take the competetive parenting with a heap of salt . i had a friend who insisted her DS the same age as mine had been potty trained since about 2 and how awful it was that my DS wasnt etc - when we met up last year she was still taking him to the toilet every 45 mins or so. so they may also have a different version of what potty training is all about!!

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SunSoakedStone · 08/03/2012 09:17

There goes the theory! I'll give him a try then, it might even help his language. What's the worst that could happen...

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SunSoakedStone · 08/03/2012 09:23

shelley72 that sounds very much like MiL's idea of potty training. Her DCs trained at 14, 12 and 10 MONTHS!!
She must be a lying cow have spent all day taking them to the toilet.

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Mama1980 · 08/03/2012 11:52

Hi my ds refutes this as well. He was toilet trained at 2.7 night trained by 3. But due to a traumatic prem birth his language skills were almost non existent, however physically he always has been very coordinated etc. hate the competitive parenting crap I think each child is just different

brettgirl2 · 12/03/2012 21:09

I agree every child is different.

I trained dd at 2.4. One 'amusing' occasion we had was when she got distraught one morning because there was 'something coming out of her bottom' when dh told her to go to the toilet she refused because he would 'take her breakfast away' (as that was the case if she generally left the table . I can't help thinking that without the means to communicate this we would have been lost as to why she was pooing her pants each morning over breakfast..... So I think communication skills over 'poo poo and wee wee' are probably important.

frankie76 · 12/03/2012 21:13

We have just trained my dd at 2.10 we tried many times before and her language was great
She understood but decided she would do it when she was ready and I'm glad we didn't really push her
As long as they are not 4 years etc what's the hurry , most of them are dry by 3 or around that
Glad we tried - realised she wasn't ready and left it a few months
This time she got it in 2 days with no fuss

WizzyBizzy · 31/03/2012 23:33

DS (2.4) has excellent language skills, the best in our antenatal group, and can hold a proper conversation etc. He knows perfectly well what potty training is about and can chat about it just fine. This is useful, because he has also been able to tell me perfectly clearly that he does not, in any uncertain terms, want to poo in a potty or the toilet yet. So I have been saved from a significant amount of hassle as I'm not even attempting to train yet. We are lagging behind most of his friends, but they have had varying degrees of success and I am the only one who has not yet had to deal with a poo in pants issue-. I'm planning on leaving it a while until he tells me he's ready, which I have no doubt he will at some point - maybe next week, maybe next year!

LoopyLoopsIsTentativelyBack · 31/03/2012 23:43

dd (2.9) Is incredibly fluent in speech, much more than her (potty trained) peers, yet is nowhere near ready to lose her nappies.

stressheaderic · 31/03/2012 23:44

My DD is 2.1 and has very good language and much interest in weeing and pooing but no desire to go on the potty or toilet yet.

Have a friend who constantly boasts about her DD being 'dry' before she turned 2. Last 3 times I've met up with her her DD has wet herself. We were at a 2-hour party last week and she took the DD to the toilet 6 times. Funny sort of dry if you ask me.

It's not a race, I'm so not bothered about this and refuse to be part of any competitive parenting.

tethersend · 31/03/2012 23:45

DD was just like your DS, Wizzy.

She came downstairs a few months ago at the age of 3.3 and just said 'I'd like to do a wee in the potty'. That was it. No accidents, nothing

TheFallenMadonna · 31/03/2012 23:45

DD was delayed in her speech and was dry day and night a good 6 months before she did any talking. She had mo problems with understanding language though.

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