Persevere? Or just not ready? Ds 3.3 and potty training day tw

[Molehillmountain]

Ds is 3.3 so I feel he should be somewhere approaching ready. This is day two of potty training and so far only one wee in the potty which was caught rather than him saying ge needed it. He says he can feel things coming but might just be saying what we want to hear. Pre school are really relaxed about it but the daily mail article (I know!!) about children going to school in nappies and the bit in "protecting our children" about one of their children being still in nappies at three and that being one of their signs of neglect have made me feel wobbly. Should we carry on with it? we're being low key about accidents although showing him how pleaded with his success last night. Or stop and revisit in a month or so?

Don't stress about it. I tried training my DD at around 2.5 and it was a nightmare but I was ( probably wrongly) desperate not to have two in nappies as I was due my DS. Took ages and a lot of wet carpets. DS at 3 showed no sign of being ready except he was at part time nursery and once 3, the kids got moved up to the real pre-school bit if they were by and large dry. DS's friend got moved up and DS didn't- so aged three and 1 day he told them he wasn't wearing the silly nappy anymore- this was on a Friday afternoon- and by Monday he was dry day and night and never looked back. His decision totally and no grief for me and one happy bunny in the big boy pants in the pre-school.

My DS is 2y10mth and has no intention of using the potty / toilet thank you very much mummy. I too have been quoted the blardy daily mail article by my DM, way I see it is there's a big difference between a nearly 3 and a nearly 5 year old. I'm going for schoolchauffeurs way and stepping back from it, talking about nappies for babies and pants for big boys and hoping we'll just suss it in a few days when he clicks.

DD was trained at 2yrs to the day so I reckon there is just differences in them and am not letting the daily mail make me feel guilty. Fair enough if he was showing signs of being ready and I was sitting on my arse on MN but he's not so we'll tackle it when he is.

If your DS isn't getting upset I'd probably carry on as you are for a few more days

DS tried at 2.10 - complete nightmare. Very Very stressful for us both, he understood what we were asking of him, but just didnt get it. I ended up very frustrated and shouty, a time that I am not proud of at all. Ended up back in nappies and tried again when he was 3.6 approx - really at his instigation as I was too traumatised to try again after the first disaster. Completely different experience, he understood and was physically ready, so although it still took a bit of time, whole process was much easier. If you dont think he is ready I would leave it a few months, no point whatsoever in making it a stressful experience for you both if it doesnt have to be.

Totally agree not to stress about it and do it when you feel you are both ready but equally, on day two, even getting one wee in the potty is good!

My first 2 were just over 3 when we potty trained and from memory day 1 was good but then days 2&3 (and maybe 4&5) were a nightmare then they seemed to get it.

Dc3 on the otherhand decided on her 2nd birthday that she was no longer wearing nappies. She "got" weeing straight off (day and night) but shat in her knickers daily until she was 3.5

Dc4 will be in nappies until he is 3 at the earliest...

Thanks for the encouragent! Nothing in the potty today!! We bottled it a bit-dh didn't want to be weed on at gym class and we went to a restaurant for lunch and forgot to take spare clothes . So ge stayed in pull up. Did have pants on before and after and sat on potty for big dose of toy story . One poo in pants-and I actually washed them instead of chucking them so perhaps I'm committed to this process. Tomorrow is another day...going to continue at least to Tuesday as he is at preschool then and I'd like their opinion on how he does without his overbearing mother around!!!