Day 7 of Cold Turkey potty training and have gotten nowhere, please help!!

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Decided to spend half term at home all week in order to do 'intensive' potty training with my 3 yr old ds in order for him to be able to go to school in pants next week. We started on saturday morning, put him in cotton pants and have been sitting him on the potty every half an hour (or the toilet if we've been in the bathroom) we're now at day 7 and we've just gotten nowhere, he has been averaging one success on the potty a day and the past two days he has picked the potty up and chucked the wee all over the floor! We had a good day on day three when he managed 4 wees and a poo, but since then it has just gone downhill again.I've explained to him that if he does a wee he'll get a sticker on his chart and a sweet and he knows this but doesn't seem too fussed about it. And he knows the theory of where he's meant to wee because when I ask him he tells me that wees go in the potty or the toilet, he just doesn't seem to want to do them there! He seems like he'd rather just be playing and that he can't be bothered to sit on the potty and wee when he could just as easily do it in his pants and have me clean up after him. He's not even remotely bothered about having wet pants. Does anyone have any advice? I really do not want to put him back in pullups!

Only advice I have is to not get stressed or annoyed when he has an accident. Just treat it as a non event and keep the whole thing stress free. Plenty of praise when he does well ( which I'm sure you're doing)

If you think he's ready then the only thing you can do is keep going. If you think about it, all he's ever known for 3 years is to just wee whenever he likes and it gets caught in his nappy. It might just take a while for him to adjust he might just need peel active physically to get used to using the muscle that holds wee in and lets it out iyswim.

To be honest I think intensive short term potty training is rarely successful in reality. Most people's dc take longer than a week to fully get the hang of it. I won't go in to the fact my own ds has taken over a year to stop having regular accidents he is an extreme case though and suffers with constipation which makes things worse.

Anyway, most do get the hang of it quicker. If I were you I wouldn't go back to pull ups, I think it just confuses them more. I know it's terribly frustrating but he'll get there

Peel active?! I meant 'he might just need practice physically'

It sounds to me like he is maybe not quite ready for it yet. I'd be inclined to go back to nappies and wait for a bit longer, maybe try again at Easter. I am basing that on my experience, where we spent ages trying to persuade DS to use the potty, and he was just not interested, then one day DH was changing his nappy, and he got up, went and wee'd in the potty, and never looked back. He obviously had a few accidents, but was basically dry from then on! It is bloody frustrating though, I feel your pain!

Thanks for that, I definately won't be going back to Pullups as ds does just use them as a nappy rather than training pants. I'm just worried about what school will think when he's having constant accidents there as I definately can't see him interfering his play there to use the toilet when he won't do it at home! I think I will tell his teacher that if he gets too much I will come in and change him myself. I have to admit to buying that Gina Ford (can I say her name on here? Lol) potty training one week book as I thought it might work but it has made me feel an utter failure, thanks Gina!

Notinmykitchen, the thing is ds has been showing signs of being ready and the worst thing is that he knows that wees go in the potty/toilet, it feels as though he's doing it to be stubborn because he knows I'm trying to get him to do it! At the moment it feels like a battle of wills but I may be going a bit mad after being stuck indoors all week!

Oh my sil bought that book and thought it was a load of rubbish too

The only thing you can do about school is talk to them as ask how they can help and support you. Tell them exactly how you are training him so they can do the same and be consistent. After a whole of regular accidents from my ds we had a word with his nursery/pre school and they set up a special sticker chart for him and focused some extra attention on him to make sure he was going to the loo regularly.

Of course there's a chance he's not ready but only you can judge that really. You'll get there