3yr old constantly wetting. Please help!

[chrissim]

Please please help.
Advice please.
I am very distressed about this situation. My daughter was 3 in August last year. She was dry for 2 months when she was 2 then my baby boy was born 2 months after. My daughter has wet herself ever since. This was 15 months ago! A very long time. I have visited my Health Visitor and doctor on numerous occasions with not much help. My daughter is wetting 5+ times a day. In the last 15 months I have put her back in pull ups twice (to try and break the habit), tried all the bribery techniques the Health Visitor advised me to do. Recently I have just spent quite a bit of money on cotton pants. My daughter hasn't changed one bit and still continues to wet her pants. I feel that she doesnt mind being in wet pants. She starts school full time this september and worried she wont she trained. I feel that she is being very very laszy and doesnt mind wet pants. Argh!!!
Please help. Any advice would be much appreciated.
Thanks
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Not what you want to hear but she probably realises it is an emotional pressure point with you and therefore commands your undivided attention with it - negative attention it may be. Added to which I have found that mine pick up on any pressure or stress and it garantees them to wet, and once they start they are a write off for the rest of the day. I would be tempted to let each wetting incident go without much comment (tough) but make sure she is slightly uncomfortable physically when it happens. Change the clothes slowly, perhaps in a room away from stimulus and let her feel a little cold and wet. I used to race to change my daughter because of the mess and then I realised she had the attitude that it didn't matter because I would clear it all up. When I took her out of the room with the tv and stood her on the bathroom (cold) tiled floor in bare feet while I unhurriedly changed her, she became more motivated. All I would say was a calm, never mind we will catch it in the potty next time won't we.
We all panic that our children won't be ready in time for school, you aren't the only one out there.

I had to give my dd2 loads of praise and encouragement after baby was born saying she was the big girl abd she didnt want to wear nappies like a baby etc.