Potty training regression

[Rubyroolocks]

I have a 2.9 year old daughter who was potty trained for about 6-8 weeks with the odd wee accident now and then but about a week ago she just stopped wanting to bother and started weeing everywhere all of a sudden. I cant think what changed to make her want to do this. Both my husband and I have tried to be encouraging and firm with her but she doesnt even want to sit on the loo anymore. It's so hard to tell if we should be really firm and make her sit on the loo (she straightens her legs and refuses sometimes) or if we should just put her back in nappies and try again another time. It seems such a shame to go back on it now as she had done so well but I dont want her getting upset over it. We used a sticker chart and chocolate buttons to train her originally but they have absolutly no affect now we have re-introduced it.

I don't have any answers as am going through exactly the same thing DD is also 2.9 and after a rocky start (after which we gave up for a month or so) has been great for the past 5-6 weeks- can count the accidents on one hand. Then today and yesterday, 4-5 wees in her pants and none in the potty. Its like shes forgotten overnight.

So not very helpful but you are not the only one (and if it was just a phase and all is well now please let me know! I have a washing basket full of leggings, pants and socks from the weekend alone!)

She is still very much the same, although she has had a few days where she has started to use the toilet more but other days where she has not used the toilet at all. She is very head strong and I think is trying to assert her authority by refusing to go and at the same time forgetting to go. My health visitor said to go back to square one and look out for the signs that she needs the loo and take her to the toilet and reward her. When I said she sometimes refuses to go and throws a massive tantrum she said to take her to the toilet using no eye contact or words and leave her there and walk away. Trouble is there are no signs that she needs to go as she just looks down and says "mummy ive done a wee wee" and even if there were if I took her to the toilet in silence and walked away she would just follow me out again baffled.

Im the same as you and have heaps of wee drenched clothes to wash everyday. Let me know if you get anywhere and have some advice please, I would love to know.

I hardly dare say it but it seems to have been a phase and we have been ok for a few days now. I spent Monday hounding her every hour with Do you need a wee? No well come with Mummy while I have one (cue tantrum in the swimming pool loo which was nice) She did relent when she actually needed one though. She wanted a little moshi monster thing so I said she could have it if we got to bedtime with no wees in the pants - no idea if that made any difference or not but we didn't have any accidents that day.

I do wonder if it was just that the novelty had worn off (and the effusive praise and chocolate buttons had dried up) so for a few days I made a point of quietly praising her/noticing when she did go on the potty/toilet (I am not doing that for the next 16 years though so she'll have to get over it at some point!)I have not reinstated the chocolate buttons as she was getting a bit too fond of them plus I was finishing off the packets

Only other thing I can suggest is take her with you when you go and make a game of it Who is going to go first, I bet I can beat you etc. (All relentlessly upbeat of course oh the joys of mothering) I wouldn't leave her there, I agree that my DD would either have a strop or follow me out - as would i if someone did that to me and I was convinced i didn't need to go! Or perhaps sit her on the potty in front of some toys/colouring/tv to distract if she hasn't been for a while, making a bigger deal oof the toys etc than the potty?

Hope it sorts itself out soon, I do sympathise, my DD is also headstrong!

Hi. Potty trained, but now regressing, but at a different stage to you. My DS is 2yrs 3mths and we started potty training at the beginning of the year. We went for cold turkey approach. No nappies apart from the nap and night time. Apart from disastrous 1st day, the rest of the week went down from 9 wet accidents, (plus 2 poo accidents at the beginning), down to 0 wees on day 8! He voluntarily went to the potty for the whole day. Woo-hoo, cracked it!

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Today a week later, he'd rather wee where he stands. He says 'wee in trousers' as a preference, or 'wee on Mummy'. Only goes to the potty if I'm suggesting it repeatedly on the hour. And, did a poo accident yesterday...tsk

Health visitor this morning said, 'oh regressing sometimes happens' so I can 'persevere or go back to nappies for 2 months.' which still left me feeling lost. However, one bit of advice she gave I'll try. She suggested that when he does a wee, encourage him to remove the clothing himself which will seem arduous and tedious for him each time, and may motivate him to get the clothing down before the wee. Currently I've been whipping off the wet clothes immediately, and straight on with the dry clothes. Sounds cruel, but staying damp and uncomfortable for a while may motivate a preference to be dry.

When you frog march your DD to the potty/loo, what if you turned on the shower head to psychologically bring on the idea of weeing. My DS would wee when watching the washing machine when water was trickling down the door window.

How are you getting on?

It is so good not to be the only one! Ds is 2.10 yes and was fully potty trained for about 2 weeks but then completely gave up. He has been wetting himself all the time for the last 5 weeks. Want to persevere but it is so frustrating. Luckily he won't poo himself, always asks to go to the toilet or even takes himself for that! The only way to avoid accidents is to keep taking him to the loo but even then he will often refuse to go and then wet himself straight after. Have tried rewards, leaving him sat in wet clothes but nothing has really worked. Today he was on for getting a fireman Sam jigsaw if he stayed dry all day and he did ask once to go but then later wet himself and didn't even tell me, he just sat in it for a while until I noticed. I will try to make less of a fuss and leave him to take his trousers off in the hope that it is all to do with the attention. At a loss to guess what else it could be!

I was about to start a thread with the same title as this? DS has just turned 3 and all been going brilliantly, thought we?d cracked this potty training lark and then over the last week he?s just got worse and worse! We?ve gone from him being really reliable at telling us when he needed to go, to weeing and pooing in pants again and not even telling us some of the time? just sitting there in it. Its so hard not to show how annoying it is having to do all these clean up operations again. I just don?t understand what has triggered this? Maybe we got too complacent? Anyway, we?re reinstating the sticker chart/choc button system, but if anyone else can shed any light or offer any other possible solutions that would be great. My smelly washing pile is building up! I hate it!

My dd has been training since last Easter. She goes through ups and downs. I just put up with it, don't tell her off, but lots of encouragement. Then she's great for a couple weeks. Then bad again for a couple. I have no idea why.

I can't offer any practical advice but I hear you, ladies. My DS (2.4) cracked the potty within a day, a little over two weeks ago. I was amazed! I couldn't believe how easily he mastered the phrase "mummy, weewee". He seemed to enjoy it, even! Then suddenly the potty is an object of much consternation resulting in tears and loathing. Now he just looks at me blankly while he wees in his pants. He spent a weekend with the ex iLs and is worse than ever. Blast springs to mind, as well as a few other choice words! I don't know how to approach the subject with him now as I'm concerned about making him retreat further back into his 'toddler-cave' .

Watching, with interest. What's the deal with doing a little wee wee in your pants. Then holding on to the rest. I don't get it. Why is he completely continent outside of the house and then, lets face it, lazy, when we're at home? Why?

I'm back! I'm glad I'm not the only one having this problem but I feel for those that are. I continued to keep her in pants and used sticker chart/choc buttons and leaving her in the wet clothes and when she asked me to change her Ive told her to strip off her bottom half and then I will get her some dry clothes and Ive tried not to make a big deal of it. Sometimes I get a good response and she gets undressed and re-dressed herself into dry clothes and other times she gets frustrated and screams but this is probably down to tiredness. We were doing better and she was having days of being dry a lot more frequently so I started to give sticker and choc buttons at the end of a good day as a reward instead of for each time she used the toilet.
The past couple of days though shes been having the odd accident again. But like Blackswan said she never (touch wood) seems to have accidents outside of the house, just inside. So the only thing I can think of is laziness or being distracted in other ways when at home. Its such a shame because sometimes she'll be so keen to do it herself and use her step to flick the light switch in the cloakroom and get on the toilet herself and not want me there so that shes independant and then other times its like shes a baby again. Ive tried taking her more regularly and putting the tap on for sound effects but if she doesnt want to do it she wont, and she sure lets me know she wont!

Am just going to keep plodding along until it resolves itself. Am off to put a load of washing on now as Ive run out of trousers and pants for her!

My DS doesn't seem to think it's a big deal to wet himself at home. He's decided it's OK. I ask him where he is meant to do his wee wee and he is very casual and matter of fact 'wee wee toilet...' yeah sure! If I ask him if he needs to go he gets cross and if I take him without asking he says 'no no toilet no wee wee!' then 5 mins later a little accident.

But when we are out it's a different matter. He asks for the toilet when he needs it and goes when prompted. Hmm. Am I being taken for a fool?