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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

How long should it take?

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Biscuitsandtea · 17/11/2011 17:06

I started potty training DS about a month ago (when he was 3 and a bit, nearly 3.1).

We started on a Saturday and by the end of the Sunday he was doing well enough to brave pants for nursery on the Monday. That first week was a bit hit and miss, but not too bad.

Since then, generally he's been having (with the exception of 2 days we like to call The Regression) perhaps one accident every other day or maybe 2 accidents in every 3 days. So slightly more on average than one every other day.

Today he's had 2 poo accidents :( whch is quite a bad day for us.

But my question is this - how long should it take for the good days to become more and the bad days to be less often? I just wondered what others experience was and if it takes others this long to clear that last hurdle of 'the regular accident'? It's like he has the main principles but I just wish the accidents were less often.

I still don't think he should go back to nappies because he does 'get' what he's doing. Nursery agree that he's past nappies and we just need to suck it up and persevere. I think because of his age and the fact that he gets all bar, say, one right, we don't need to go back to nappies.

I just find it hard to understand that if he can do it most of the time, why can't he do it almost all of the time! I know it is difficult for them to learn, and I have to remind myself that it is just second nature to us as grown ups whereas he just gets distracted by something and I guess he's spent 3 years 'just letting it all go'.

Just need some cheering up I think please Confused and the experience of others.

Oh, and since The Regression (which I can't talk about without therapy) we've been doing a sticker chart with a small reward for 5 stickers (I'm talking a few chocolate buttons or whatever). I did start off doing a reward every time he got through a day accident free, but if he had an accident early on then it was kind of game over for that day and nothing left to incentivise him. So we scrapped that and went with the stickers.

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TeWihara · 17/11/2011 18:41

I don't know tbh. I just came here to ask the same question.

We are two weeks in with DD, today was totally awful - 4 accidents (1 of which was poo) where she didn't seem to be able to stop after she'd started to at least finish on the potty.

Even on a good day we go through a couple of pairs of pants because she wets them a tiny bit before going to the potty.

Feeling pretty disheartened.

BlackCatinaWoollyhat · 19/11/2011 21:16

Hi Biscuits Smile

When I was training DS (years ago) I think it took quite a long time before he was free from accidents. He was 3 + when we trained him.

I am thinking of giving it another go with DD soon as she has just turned 3.

Are you still doing the other thread? If you are I might join you again if that's ok.
We took a few weeks off as we wern't making progress.

Fresh01 · 19/11/2011 21:28

Depends on a lot on the child in my opinion. DD1 got no. 2's immediately and never had an accident with them. Odd wee accident for 5 days then never another. DD2 took 9 months of occasional accidents, frequent for first couple of months but still more in toilet (she didn't want to use potty) than accidents per day so just kept going rather than put back in nappies. A lot of deep breaths required. But one of the main differences between the girls is that no 1 has a very short concentration span and easily distracted whereas DD2 can get very involved with playing with figures, Peppa, Sylvanian etc and just doesn't think to go (even with reminders) till it is too late.

If you want to keep going just make very little comment on the accidents and just clear it up and change them and tell them next time to try and get to the potty/toilet.

Biscuitsandtea · 20/11/2011 17:27

Thank you all.

Well the weekend has been a bit better. no accidents Sunday. One Accident this morning but DS had actually gone to the toilet upstairs and we didn't know. he just couldn't get on to the toilet himself. So not really an accident, more a logistical problem Confused. Then a bit of a poo accident this afternoon but he'd just done a poo and I don't think he realised there was more to come Hmm. Still, one accident over 2 days. i guess it's getting better.......

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