STILL not asking to go to toilet after 3 MONTHS!!!

[frandango]

Hey its me again - have been training 3.10 ds since start Feb. He is in pants all the time but is still not asking to go for a pee or a poo. If I take him every couple of hours he is quite happy to pee but I am starting to wonder if taking him is being counterproductive as he is not getting the "bursting" sensation. If I don't take him he just pees where he is standing - doesn't even attempt to run to the loo or even say. He has had 3 accidents today as I have been trying not to take him all the time as I think he should really be taking some responsbilitly for it himself. WWYD? PS He doesnt even get upset or bothered by it when he has an accident - personally i think he is just not interested..

Hi. Could have written this post myself! My DS who was 3 in March is exactly the same! I also take him every hour or hour and a half and he almost always wees poos and is pleased with himself. I thought that by now after more than a month it would have clicked and he would begin asking/taking himself but no. If like you I just remind him he just wees or poos in his pants. I amjust not sure if he gets the needing to go sensation. Not sure what to do now don't want to go back to nappies as surely that will confuse him? Will be interested to see what others suggest. Its good to know there are others with the same issues.

Yes zigzaggy its always good to know you're not alone! I am going to speak to health visitor to see what she thinks because I'm wondering what the next step should be - I can predict her answer though - just keep going with it and it will click eventually! I wont be going back to nappies though as it would make me feel annoyed with myself for taking a step backwards! At least the weather is better now for all the washing! I will post again once I have spoken to her and let you know.

I am also watching - my ds aged 3 is the same!

I'm another with a DS who has been very slow to 'get' this. I'm pleased to announce (touch wood), that after potty training for nearly 4 months, he has started asking to go. Still the odd accident/bit of dribble in his pants, but it does feel like real progress. I thought this day would never come! There is hope for you all.

I think what helped me was trying to be very low key about it all, and not getting upset/cross with him. Easy to say, but hard to do after weeks and weeks of wet pants and trousers. Oh, and doing 'outside wees' has helped too - my DS doesn't like public loos, which makes things tricky.

Good luck everyone. Don't give up, and don't go back into nappies.

Hey everyone - DS is doing slightly better - went back to bribery - I said if he asked to go he would get a small treat - hasn't asked me but if I keep asking him if he needs a pee (every 45 mins or so) he will say yes eventually - he hasn't had any accidents since monday - and at childminder on tues when he was outside playing he asked to go - typical - I missed the historical event! anyway will go now as I dont want to jinx it!!! PS havent got hold of HV, probably won't bother just yet - will wait a few weeks just to see xx

Just thought you might want to know I was at docs today (eye infection) and so I took the opportunity to ask him about this potty training malarkey. He said that he is still young and that maybe the nerve hasn't yet fully developed to send the message to the brain (this is as basic as I can explain!) so he maybe isn't getting the "feeling" yet. Also taking him to the toilet too often is being counterproductive as he has to take some responsibility for it himself and if he is taken all the time he wont recognise the full feeling. Also that I just have to keep reminding him and asking if he needs. He asked me when he has an accident how he reacts and also does he know that he was needing to pee. I have asked DS this and he says no he didn't know he was needing. ANYWAY - the doc said that he might also have an infection (doubt it) so have to put in a pee sample just to rule anything out. So there you go. Doc reckons if there is still a problem in 6 months time then come back.

It might sound counter-intuitive but try giving him loads to drink. You might want to stay home for a couple of days while you do it, but it should give him more awareness of feeling like he needs to go rather than just sitting down and trying when asked.

I did actually think about trying that - will give it a go. Thanks.