After 4 months, still problems with the poo

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I started R's potty training in December. Things were more or less quite easy, with occasional accidents. He still has random accidentents when i dont ask him too often if he need to have a wee.
Anyway, the poo is a real issue. For the first 3 months maybe he never wanted to do it in potty/toilet but he used to do it in the pants or just hold it for one or two days. This created constipation and in several instances faeces with blood. The fact that now when he is about to defacate, i see him jumping around, being very unconfortable. i try to convince him to come with me to the toilet, sometimes he does, but i have to hug him while he does it, otherwise he stops pushing. This happens always with lots of screaming and crying, as he was scared.
Anyway, my question is: is it normal that he doens mastered "the art of having a s*it"? Am i doing something wrong? dont tell me the rubbish about the stickers because he doesnt work with him.....
By the way, R is 2 years and 10 months old.

Thanks to whoever wants to reply.

I have no real advice, but just wanted to say that my DS was exactly the same. HE was dry both day and night ages before he would poo in the toilet. He would scream for a nappy to be on him if he needed a poo and would wait until it was on before "preforming".

Just persevere. I tried not to let him get too distressed by the poo on toilet. If he does it while you are cuddling him, keep on doing that until he is more comfortable with the whole process.

DS is now a strapping 15 year old, but he still will only poo in one toilet in our home. We have 3, but he only uses one for pooing.

Good luck.

Thank you very much.

Anu other comments, girls??

I have 2 that are the same!
My DD1 was dry in the day at 2.9 years but refused to poo unless in a nappy until she was nearly 4. Poo Goes to Pooland freaked her out, she thought there were people living in the loo.....
She would hold it throughout nursery and wait for her bedtime nappy to go on so we were still using 2 nappies a day for her. She stopped one day as she nearly lost control walking home from nursery and she ran the rest of the way home. I caught her up as she was doing the dance of the peeping tortoise by the front door, let her into the house and popped her on the loo while I "got a nappy for her". She gave in to her need to push and with a scream of defeat she performed. She was so pleased with herself that she decided to go without nappies at night. She was a nightmare to train, I tried 3 times over 18 months and nearly had a breakdown. My younger daughter copied the tantrums and for a while I blamed myself for a lot of it but not this time.
Now I am on day 7 of training with DD2 (2.10 years) and she is exactly the same, hysterical each time I put her on the loo. This morning she belted me - not a slap - in the face as I placed her on the loo. She took her nappy off at 6am when she got up and kept saying "wee wee" so I popped her on and she hit me. I was so shocked and nearly wet myself! She lost control and went in the loo then. She was on day 5 of holding her poo today and we have had an awful weekend with her leaking and refusing to go. She reached crisis point this lunchtime and let it go (we were on and off the loo every 5-10 minutes in the run up to it today). She is very pleased with herself but I will wait and see what the rest of the week brings. Thankfully I feel a lot stronger to deal with it and I won't keep giving up this time.

My son was 'wee trained' in a week at 2yrs, but only conquered 'poos' a few months ago at 3.5yrs.
What was the solution - "poo goes to pooland" - it is mentioned on this & other forums - I thoroughly recommend it - it has changed our lives!
Google it to find the downlaodable version -I'll link if I can find it later.