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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

Moving from potty to toilet - Funny toddler

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Mummywalsh · 07/04/2011 23:55

My DD1 (2.5) has been potty training for nearly two weeks and going reasonably well, but I am getting fed up of taking potty everywhere with us. She refuses (quite physically and hysterically) to go anywhere near a toilet. She watches me and my niece (2yrs 9months) who she is very close to go on the toilet, I have even asked my SIL to try and put her on the toilet when she shows interest in my niece doing it but then she realises what is about to happen and kicks and screams. She is very particular and doesn't like any change, it was her decision to start potty-training - I kid you not! One day she took off her nappy and now its a battle to make her wear it at night. Though when she has a poo she is almost in tears at the horror of it! If we are in the middle of a supermarket she will get very agitated if she needs to go, to the extent I have to move the pushchair to shield us from prying eyes whilst she uses the potty there and then. We were caught short the other day and she held the wee all the way home instead of using a toilet - though she does have occasional accidents, she's not that stubborn yet lol. What I am asking is, how can I get her to use the toilet? I don't want to buy one of those miniature toilet/potty things as that's just adding another rung to the ladder of toilet training!

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girlywhirly · 08/04/2011 10:22

I think you'll have to resign yourself to taking the potty with you for much longer, as I think you're rushing DD into using the toilet. Be happy that she has trained so young and at her own instigation! If you force the issue, you are asking for trouble, the more you push the more she will resist.

Would she use something like a potette plus for trips out, so that eventually she could use it in toilet seat mode, and it would still feel like the potty that she is used to? Something familiar like this would help the transition as you say she is wary of change. It would also fold smaller than an ordinary potty for you to take out and about.

I would wait until DD is entirely confident with the potty before getting her to sit on the toilet. You could start preparations for this by letting her choose a comfy seat for it, and have practice sessions just sitting on it, to get the feel of what it's like. Make it clear that it is just sitting, that she doesn't have to do anything (choose a time when she doesn't need to go, she could keep her pants on if it makes her feel any happier)You could offer a bribe if you want, make sure you stay with her as she may be scared of falling off or being flushed away. Progress to sitting without pants on. If she gets off and uses the potty instead, don't get cross. One day she will probably decide that the toilet isn't scary after all, and use it, much as she did with the potty.

The key is to let her do this at her own pace, and provide the means to make it easier for you all, two weeks is nothing in the grand scheme of potty training, think three months at least of taking potties, and much longer for changes of clothes in case of accidents from now.

Mummywalsh · 10/04/2011 22:15

Thank you so much, I've just looked up the Potette Plus and it looks the answer to my prayers, trying to find somewhere to empty the potty when out is absolutely mortifying but I don't want to wait until we're in a toilet as I don't want her to have an accident. She is doing so well, she's my first so I'm kind of learning as I go along, but all of your advice was very gratefully welcomed, most of my peers are at a similar phase so no real experience between us. Feeling a lot better now, thanks x

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