DD won't wear a nappy/pull-up but hates having accidents

[MrsBloomingTroll]

DD is 2.7 and for the past week or so (and occasional days before then) has refused to wear a nappy/pull-up, just knickers.

She's pretty good at weeing on the potty and remembering to ask, but can't handle pooing yet, whether with me or at nursery.

She hates having accidents, no matter how much reassurance she gets.

I'm in no desperate hurry to potty-train her, this is coming from her (as far as I can tell), and perhaps peer-pressure from her friends at nursery potty-training.

I needed to go to the shops earlier and tried to get her to put on a pull-up because I know she's going to poo at some point, and I'm reluctant to deal with the mess (I'm pregnant, tired, and her poo makes me gag). But she refused. I took a chance and took a towel with me to put on the seat in the trolley, as well as all the nappy/travel potty kit, and luckily we survived.

But I'm really nervous as we're staying away for a night at the weekend and will be in unfamiliar surroundings out and about, so I'm hoping she will agree to wear a pull-up then.

Anyone have experience of this or any advice of which way to go? Do we soldier on and ditch the nappies completely? Is there any way to make the accidents more bearable?

DD has just had another accident. Peed all over a dining chair with a wicker seat (impossible to replace, they don't make them any more) and the dining room floor.

But in spite of that, the fact she's been farting for Britain, and is clearly going to do a poo soon (which will inevitably be in her knickers/trousers), she again refused to put on a pull-up.

I thought that not wearing nappies was supposed to be the answer to potty training? But this was her choice, not mine! I'm just too exhausted to think straight...

Heeeeelp!

In desperation last night I re-read Gina Ford's Potty Training book .

The only thing I picked up from it was not to regress back into nappies once they've been ditched, but it's so hard when I can't face going to our normal Friday activities nappy-less, especially given that we are still waiting on a poo (usually she is quite regular so she must be holding it in).

Anyone?

MrsBloomingTroll, I feel your pain. Our dd announced on Monday morning that she would be wearing her 'big girls pants' to nursery and since then has only put a nappy back on at bed time. She has also not had a poo since Wednesday at nursery when she pooed in her pants. She is also a daily poo'er and is currently sitting eating a tangerine. God only knows the carnage that awaits!

We ventured out to meet friends yesterday and although dd told me when she needed to go, it was always slightly too late and she wet herself on the way to the toilet. Ah well, I'm sure it will get better. She is determined to do it, so will grin and bear it.

Hopefully someone will come along soon to give some advice. I'm taking consolation in the fact we have no plans to go anywhere today and it's Friday which means I can have wine later

Good Luck!

Be reasurred you are not alone with poo problems - just look at all the threads to see how common it is!!
Different approaches work for different children so I will give a few examples of the successful ones we have used!!
Consequences
For some children giving them some responsibilty in the 'cleaning up' works wonders - the child is taken to the bathroom where the soiled pants are removed and 'Mr poo' put into the toilet. While most of the poo is wiped away the child then has to finish off and continue to wipe their bottom until clean with the message 'when you do your poo in the potty/toilet it will be so quick and easy'. One mum kept putting her little one in a dry bath(so that the poo did not go everywhere) with a pkt of wet wipes everytime he poo'd in his pants and within a week he was using the toilet. If when the child poos in their pants and somewhen else has to do all the hard work why would you want to change? At 2 or 3 children have no sense of embarassment or social rules so if what they do does not cause them any inconvenience there is nothing to motivate them to change their behaviour
The poo fairy
We send letters out from the 'poo fairy' to help motivate using the toilet and also suggest the 'toilet lady' pays a visit AKA the HV or similar to enforce the rule that poos have to go in the toilet
Having special poo nappies
Announce that you have found some special poo nappies in the shops that are just for doing poos in - isn't that great! And everytime you use a poo nappy the poo fairy gives you a prize!!! (this could be a sticker ) make it fun and into a game - initially we let the child choose which room she wants to have the poo nappy on but we then move towards only allowing the poo nappy on in the bathroom when we work towards sitting on the toilet
Hope that gives you some ideas - if you get really stuck contact the charity PromoCon 0161 834 2001 www.promocon.co.uk for more advice and info
Good luck! :-)