i've created this situation, now i don't know how to get out of it

[warthog]

dd1 was very difficult to potty train. she was very anti - sticker charts and usual bribery didn't work. eventually we managed when she was about 3.5.

however

i have been wiping her bottom for her after a poo. up until about 6 months ago i was doing all wiping but got my act together because of school.

lazy parent, see?

now she has just turned 5 and i'm so fed up. she should really be able to go to the loo completely on her own but is absolutely refusing to wipe her poo bottom.

i can't just let her not do it as that would be awful.

what the hell do i do now???? i've tried offering sweets as a reward but it doesn't seem to incentivise her. she just doesn't care!

please, help!

ok... so she's 5 years old.

make her try.... quite simply until you have (at least had a good try at) wiped your bottom, you cannot come out of the toilet and have dinner / play etc.

She may scream and cry first (if that usualy makes you back down and her get her own way) but just insist that until she does it she wont be doing anything else.

Im sure in a few poos time she will just get on with it.

Maybe get some kandoo style wipes if she likes them... perhaps she could go with you and go shopping for them.... just dont flush them cause although they say they are flushable, it wont be long before you need a drainman to unblock the drains.

If she wants to use them then put in a nappy sac and bin them

thanks for the response.

well so far making her try has resulted in 20 mins of her sitting on the loo with me eventually giving in. so maybe i'm too soft.

maybe insistence combined with bribery.

she is the most stubborn child i've come across. i tend to pick my battles carefully.

i must admit that i've been using kandoo wipes for poos, and flushing them. so far no blockages but didn't realise they're not really flushable. thanks for the info.

they are supposed to be flushable

however in every house i've ever worked in, we have needed plumbers out for blockages cause by the wipes...

i tried to tell my new bosses, that they will in time, block the drains, and they thought they wouldnt ("they say flushable, look"... and then they did.

I remember at one of our groups mentioning (to raise awareness) that the kandoo's had blocked our loos, that very week another member of the group had had the same problem, and another couple had previously... another of the mums, her DH was a plumber and had jobs unblocking blockages by kandoo wipes about once a week!

people think im lazy coz i dont wash my 4yr olds bum after poo, i think she can do it herself!!