How long can it take before dc learn how to get wee in the toilet?

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Ds (3.2) very reluctant toilet trainer (tried before but point blank refused to ever sit on potty/toilet, so just lots of random wees on floor before we gave up after 1.5 days).

Anyway, he's been encouraged by nursery, and has made progress: will now wear pants, and as of today, has refused nappies. So he's been in pants all day, but so far, nowhere near getting a wee in the toilet, not even any near misses. How long do you think I should give it? I'm hoping if he keeps having wees on the floor he'll start connecting that feeling with what he needs to do on the potty, but pls some advice on this!

thanks

Can you just start rewarding him to sit on the potty? Then once behe's comfortable with sitting there he might be more inclined to wee in it. I set a timer on my phone every 20mins to make a quacking noise and that meant it was time to sit on the potty, worked a lot better than me asking him to sit on it.

Hi there,
I have been rewarding him for sitting on the toilet (he refuses to sit on the potty), but I don't want to push it too much given his previous reluctance. Altho' I like your idea of a quacking timer - maybe I should try that. Oh well, day 2 today - looking forward to more streams of wee everywhere!

My DS was just the same and then a miracle - he suddenly decided to do it overnight aged about 3 1/2. I think they decide for themselves in the end. We spent a lot of time and effort trying to toilet train him and then it jist happened when he decided...

Thing is, he really has the control and the desire at the moment to do it, so I'm reluctant to stop.

He only wees on the floor when he really can't stop himself - today he hasn't weed since 8am, despite drinking this morning. He even had a spell in nappies when we went to the shops. Very like my dd, he seems to have such good bladder control he finds actually weeing on demand very difficult. Anyone else experienced this?