Gaps in potty training with different carers?

[Caz10]

Sorry starting 2 threads at once but 2 different worries! Dd is looked after by me, Dh and both grannies when we are at work. Have tried to schedule most recent attempt at pt to give Dd maximum time with Dh and I, but even that only gives us 4 days! She might well manage it but I really doubt it, and by day 5 it is over to my mum who won't be able to cope/help (don't ask!), day 6 other gran, then back to Dh. Will skipping these granny days, ie going back to nappies, really confuse her? I think it will, but we will always be in this situation so not sure what to do!

selfish little bump

I'm in the same position, and wanted to post something similar a while back. My dd is either with me, my parents or at nursery. She's now more or less dry with me, but refuses to sit on the potty with my parents (but consents to wearing pants) and at nursery she refuses to do either (so is in pull-ups all day).

It's perhaps slowing things down, but still after a day at nursery or with my parents, she'll get into her pants and sit on the potty mostly relatively happily. So, my advice would be to start her off and accept that she might do different things in different places. No one is putting pressure on my dd (after initial stress on my part, thinking that it would confuse her to do different things), and I'm just hoping she'll go the rest of the haul in her own time.

Good luck!

Thanks for posting! Yes I would worried it might confuse her, but hopefully the worst result is that it will take longer? Our current worry is that she is holding in poo for when she has a nappy on , so the poor nursery is getting the brunt of it as that is when she's not wearing pants, and I don't know how long they'll put up with that for. Equally though I feel I can't send her there in pants as she'll just be weeing on the floor instead!!

Sorry should have explained that she also goes to ante-pre school 5x per week for 3 hrs, so yet another situation/carer to add to the mix!

How's it going?

I've got a similar situation, DD is with GP 1 day, nursery 2 days, then at home with me the rest of the time (&DH at the weekends). On one of "our" days we do a toddler class in the morning & she naps for almost 3hrs in the afternoon (catch up from nursery) so will only have 3 days in a row to have a proper go at potty training

I thought I might get her used to pull-up nappies first so she can at least use the potty quickly if/when she wants, and just have alot of bare bum time when we can, but like you, am worried about confusing her! I was originally going to leave it until the summer (#2 due in April) but as she's started asking for the potty at bathtime (5 wees & 2 poos in the last fortnight!) i feel like i should continue what she's started!

Is there any chance that you and DH could each take one day off to cover day 5 and 6, so that she actually gets about 10 straight days with you before being handed over to her grannies? Having had problems with pt my DS switching between nursery and us (4 days at home with us then 3 days to nursery), I wish in retrospect I had done that. He's been off nursery this week ill, and he has now just cracked it because of the consistency he is getting from me.

Sorry but i think pants on some days and nappies on other days WILL really confuse her.

Once she is ready it shouldnt take that long anyway.

Grandma will just have to deal with it, and if she is ready and has a few days with you first it shouldnt be too bad.

However children DO have occasional accidents, often for a few years after being potty trained, so grandma may well have to deal with it anyway.

I wouldnt be using pull-ups either. they are also essentially nappies and just confuse the child.
Material underwear is what they need.

You could perhaps buy some brightbots training pants which are basicaly a flannel material with waterproof outer, which will catch a little, but not a whole wee, and will feel wet.

If its really bothering you, we have 2 bank holiday weekends in a row coming up next month. Why not wait until then (so even more ready) and you might e able to have 11 days in a row with DD. On thise 3 middle days she MUST remain in pants though, no matter who looks after her.

If she isnt pretty reliable after 11 days, then she probably wasnt actually ready in the first place.

Loads of children have issues with poo-ing, often for many months after being reliable for wee's. Assuming she has a nap, putting a nappy on for the nap (ie just before she gets into bed, and off as soon as she gets up) allows her to poo at grannies without a huge mess