Potty training ALL OVER AGAIN

[MintyWalters]

I am having a total nightmare with my 3 year old son at the moment(4yrs in May). He is going to school in September and we thought we had cracked the potty training. In the last month he has totally regressed and he often wets himself several times during the day whether it's at nursery or at home all day with us on the weekend. We have tried reward charts, sweets, and many other forms of bribery but I feel we have talked about it with him so many times, his wet pants and the accompanying discussions trying to establish cause, have sadly become the centre of what should be his happy carefree world. He does better on some days than others but just when we think he is back in control of things, he'll have several accidents in one day with no explanation - there just doesn't seem to be a regular pattern. He says it doesn't hurt when he wees, we prompt him all the time and shower him with praise when he gets to the toilet in time. The nursery took my husband aside today to tell him that he had wet himself in both the Batman and Spiderman dressing up outfits which they only discovered when he took them off as he doesn't let them know when he has an accident. We were nervous about putting him back in pull ups during the night again tonight as we don't want it to feel like a punishment to him, but we don't know what else to do and the washing machine is danger of exploding unless we take action. We've even queried a bladder disfunction tonight and I'm going to start my investigations by keeping a diary for a week to record how much he is drinking and what his toilet habits are that day. We will have to keep on prompting him and tell the nursery to do the same. I'm hoping its just another phase and with perseverence things will get better even though it all seems pretty desperate at the moment.

i am having similar problems, ds1 had been trained for a few months. he started nusery in january, and has since regressed. Before he was trained he would just slightly drible then say he neededa wee. now its just flooding, he stands there (mostly engrosed in what he is dooing) and just wees. he is noteven bothered about the sensation of beeing wet and doesnt even tell us anymore. he is slightly better with poos, and most go in the toilet, but we have had several where he hasnt told us he is soiled and we smell him out. so im feeling it with you in the desperate to sorrt him out, we are currently trying taking away his toys at the accident and told himghe gets 1 back each day he is dry, but at this rate it will take him a month to get them all back after a few days of no toilet!! goodluck and i hope someone posts some help on regression soon!!

After putting "batman" back in pull ups for the night, he came downstairs triumphantly this morning demanded his gold star and treat as his sheets were dry!!!! He had however, still managed to wet the top and side of his pyjamas even though his pants were not full AND I took him to toilet before I went to bed. Where is all this liquid coming from? Back to the drawing board.

I could have written your post Minty. Our dd1 was dry for eight months, and then we moved house in the summer holidays and she moved to a new pre-school. That was six months ago and pretty much since then she's wet herself nearly every single day, several times a day.

We have tried everything. Bribes, praise, telling off, ignoring her, star charts, etc. Nothing seems to get through to her. She couldn't care less. There's no reaction, either from telling her off or praising her.

When we got her toilet trained the first time, it was after a lot of persuading her to go until one day she just suddenly said 'I'm going to the toilet'. She made up her own mind and that was that.

I think that's what's going to have to happen this time. I think we're going to have to just wait for her to decide to use the toilet every time.

I did take her to the doctors just in case there was a medical reason but her test came back perfectly normal. I genuinely do not know what else to do. I think the move triggered it but I don't know why and I don't know what to to about it. She loves her new pre-school and she seems fine in the new house. I just don't know what else to do.

She starts school in September. She's going to be the only child in her class that wets herself. In my more paranoid moments I imagine her being picked on for the rest of her school days, outcast and friendless. My beautiful girl.

Okaay.... perhaps there are worse things to worry about but it is completely and utterly Doing My Head In.