DS1 is just 3. He has trained late but eventually done it really quickly and has been almost completely clean and dry for over a week now, and usually goes without being reminded. The only problem is that he has an aversion to toilets - even when sat on our child's toilet seat at home will not produce anything. Neither has he managed to produce a wee standing up.
I've been taking his potty out and about which has been fine. The only problem is playgroup / preschool where he goes 2 mornings a week. They have little toilets for children. I asked the pgroup leader last week if I should send his potty - they said they discourage this as they want the children to do the same as their peers.
Last Tuesday his keyworker told me she took him to the toilet a couple of times but he didn't wee and was reluctant to sit on. His CM picked him up and told me he had dry pants and did a huge wee on the potty as soon as they got. On Thursday I was on the volunteer rota at playgroup. I took him to the toilet a few times, by the end of the session he looked desperate but he still didn't produce anything. He really didn't want to sit on the toilet, said the seat was too cold and he thought he would fall down! He was asking me half the morning if he could go home and wee on his potty.
This morning I asked him if he would try to use the big boy toilet at playgroup tomorrow. He thought about it for a minute and said he wants to wear a nappy. This seems like a huge step back when he's doing so well. So do I:
a) hold my nerve, send him in pants and no potty
b) push the issue with pgroup and send his potty, or
c) put him back in a nappy for playgroup until he's mastered the toilet at home?
I'm on my way out now til this afternoon, so thanks so much in advance for replies! 