Problems with poo

[DewinDoeth]

DS is 2.5, and we started potty training him 3 weeks ago. He seems to have it - asks for the potty, no accidents (well, not at home - we do at nursery but I'll be back on here next week if that continues!) but there's a bit of a problem with poo.
When he needs to do a poo, he shows signs, and starts saying 'need to do a wee' and we go to the potty - but nothing happens, he won't stay on the potty. 3 mins later, repeat. And repeat, and repeat, and repeat...eventually, within an hour or so, the poo finally comes.

My Mum and I are now at a loss. (Mum = potty trained 3 children and dealt with reception classes as a teacher for years: and some of them required basic potty training...) She's never seen this before. Queen Gina says to get a book and wait with them; DS won't wait, even with a book or the TV. Seems to prefer hopping around clutching his bottom.

He knows he wants to do something, and after 5-6 'false alarm' potty visits, he starts saying 'poo coming out', but it can take 5 more false goes, or sometimes 15, before it actually comes.

I'm really trying to be patient, but any suggestions would be most gratefully received. Even 'we had this, it eventually went away'. [weary emoticon]

Chanced upon this whilst looking for something else and it brought back memories -not good though I'm afraid.

No real tips, but hang in there. It took my DS weeks and weeks to crack pooing (he was 2.75). Wees no problem was trained quite quickly, but poo - alas no (we threw out quite a few pairs of beyond dealing with pants). He did get it eventually though.

In the meantime comfort yourself that like everything it is a phase, he will get the hang of it - bach rescue remedy or gin to calm your nerves might work .

DS is now 4 - not an issue anymore - the opposite in fact - sometimes he spends ages on the loo - typical man.

Hope it is not too long a process and someone with better advice pops along shortly.

Hi, we had this with DS1. He would go on the potty quite easily for a wee, but he would run away and hide if he wanted a poo to avoid going on the potty.

We used something called Poo goes to Pooland - I can't link it because it was on my email, but I got it from MN so hopefully someone will come along with a link. It's basically a story about how Little Poo wants to go home to see Mummy and Daddy Poo and how it is DS1's job to help Little Poo to get home. DS1 really took to this. He then started to sit on the toilet, and we would read books to him until Little Poo came. This could take ages, but it eventually got quicker, and all of sudden he "got it" and we have never had problems since. He never did do poos on the potty though.

Only other bit of advice I can give is to make sure he never holds on to his poo so that it hurts him when it eventually comes - plenty of fresh fruit etc to keep everything soft and loose, and if things get blocked up then a spoonful of Lactulose can help get everything moving again.

HTH

Hi, I am right there with you, my DS is 2.9. He picked up the first part really well but poo is a totally different story. He won't go anywhere near the toilet or potty, and yet he is dry through the night with wee. I do think some of the problem in my situation is with his mixed childcare arrangements; my sister for 2days, nursery for 3days and mummy/daddy for the remainder, it worked well when he was smaller but now needs more continuity - we are rectifying that but not for another month and I think the Nursery are loosing a bit of patience as all the others are OK - well its probably me being paranoid, it gets you that way sometimes, so its a comfort to hear this is not an isolated problem. I shall certainly be googling Poo goes to Pooland! Hang on in there, it does get you down a bit, but a glass of after bedtime helps!

Thanks, was just going to post another thread on this because I lost this one!
Gregs our DS has mixed childcare too - 2 days nursery, 2 days my Mum, the rest with me/me and DH. My Mum is great and good backup; but nursery less so (not their fault, just a different circumstance) and so there are different issues there.

But ? Pah. I'm pg.

Off to google poo goes to pooland now!! I so hope it doesn't bring up masses of porn.