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A month in and accidents still regular

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soupmaker · 31/01/2011 20:07

My DD is 2.11. She has been very keen to wear big girl pants since the summer. We made a couple of attempts then, but she didn't get it so within 48 hours when back to nappies. Santa brought pants in her stocking and since then we've been on the road to getting trained, very much at her request. She had been doing pretty well whilst off with both me and DP over the holidays. Fairly quickly started asking to go and only have accidents when tired or busy off playing with other children. We've tried to be pretty relaxed about the whole thing. However, we are a month in, she is still pooing in pants every other day, and today came home from nursery having had 3 accidents. She has managed to do poos in the toilet. Last week she seemed to have cracked staying dry for a couple of days. I am fed up with constantly washing. DD is determined she is not going back into nappies, I have threatened this if she can't get her act together. She is not worried about sitting on adult toilets, wipes herself, washes hands, and will do a wee on request, when we are leaving the house and so on. Please tell me this will all pass, and that I just need to relax, let her get on with it and she will get there.

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whomovedmychocolate · 31/01/2011 20:23

Sounds pretty good to me - DD still has accidents and she is four. Try sticker reward charts. :) Threats don't work btw - she's training her bladder which requires muscle control, not willingness to comply. You will stress her out if you threaten her and it will be counterproductive.

soupmaker · 31/01/2011 20:40

Thanks WMMC. I know threatening nappies is not a good way to go and feeling ashamed for suggesting it now. DD a big fan of stickers so think chart might be the answer along with chocolate button rewards. I seem to have a lot of mum pals whose kids got it straight away and don't seem to have accidents which doesn't help when feeling inadequate. Although they may of course all be being a bit economical with the truth!

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whomovedmychocolate · 31/01/2011 20:50

Some kids do just get it. But those kids are weird Wink

Don't feel inadequate. Each child is different. :)

We did stickers towards a playmobil toy. The important thing is to make it attainable - so they don't wait more than a few days for the 'reward'. We did a sticker for a wee or poo on the loo and an extra sticker for staying dry all morning, afternoon etc. Also random stickers for going to the toilet nicely (as in without denying continually for an hour she needs to go and having a strop).

NorthernGobshite · 31/01/2011 21:07

She's probably just not quite ready?

soupmaker · 01/02/2011 14:24

Went into nursery this morning, had a chat with the staff, and turns out DD asked to do a poo yesterday and went off and did one!

Thanks for the advice about 'rewards'. We are going to have to adapt as DD is in nursery 4 days a week so it'll not be as straightforward as if she was at home all week.

I rather agree Northern, but DD is a determined wee madam, I think she just wants to be the same as all her wee pals at nursery. She is definately the one who has been up for this, I'd have happily waited until the summer!

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NorthernGobshite · 01/02/2011 19:25

Thats good news then! Good luck to you and dd. I remember potty training fondly!

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