Family going on about how my child should be potty trained

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My parents keep going on at me on how my 2 year old (only just turned 2 last week) should be potty trained.

She will have a wee in the potty but wont poo. I cant make her use her potty for a poo if she dont want to. I do tell her to have a poo in the potty and she just sits onit but as soon as i put a nappie on her she will poo in the nappie.

I am all out ideas so if there is any one with advice that would be great thanks.

She's very young, IMO, to be fully trained. Ignore your family. If you do succeed in potty training her, they'll just find something else she can't do yet to obsesss about!

tell them she's too young and it'll be alot quicker and easier when she's ready

If they care that much, they could do it for you perhaps?

A few years back everybody trained their children much earlier due to lack of washing machines etc. It can be done and you can get out of nappies, but you get more accidents.

If they are paying for the nappies, then fair enough, otherwise, your child, you decide. You are the mamma here, you hold the power!

Frankly I think anyone who potty trains in the winter is barking to be pitied. Wait til May.

Good on you for trying and getting her to wee! Don't stress about your family, just keep sitting her on at convenient and appropriate times with lots of praise and encouragement. You certainly can't force her.

Much easier to wait till it is warmer so she'll be wearing fewer layers of clothes, and in a few months she'll be more ready any way.

In my experience, judging by friends who had DCs at the same time as me, if you start potty training at 18 months, they will be reliably dry by 2.5-3 years.

If you start at age 2, they will be reliably dry by 2.5-3 years.

If you start at age 2.5, they will be reliably dry by 2.5-3 years - and you will have done a lot less laundry....

(I potty trained mine at about 2 and 8/9 months - summer time for both of them - and they got the hang of it in about 2 weeks.)

My familky are very controlling when it come to my baby. Think that'ss more due to family members that have lost babies.

She has been weeing in the potty for a while now, she like the praise that she gets for doing it.

There was one time when she sat next to the potty and had a poo.

I think i will take your advice and wait till summer but keep giving her the potty to wee in :)

i think personly she is abit young.

Agree to wait.

I was given a great tip by a friend to say to comments I didn't agree with. Nod and say "How interesting," or "It's worth thinking about," or some such nebulous answer, and then ignore it.

My DS is 2.4 and not potty trained, only vaguely interested. My mum's advice - Do it at 2 and they'll be dry by 3. Do it at 3 and they'll be dry by 3. I am going to give it a whirl after Easter, he'll be 2.7 and the weather will be warm. Might make the most of the 100s of bank hold coming up to stay in and do potty bootcamp.

If you wait till she's a bit older, then sticker charts/rewards might work to encourage poos on the potty - a lot of children are reluctant to start with, for some reason. But at just turned two, she's probably still a bit little to be really motivated by sticker charts.

I also found reading some of the potty training books (eg Little Princess - I want my potty) helped get them in the right frame of mind.

But in the meantime you might just have to find a way to get your family to back off - or maybe try the 'smile, nod, make agreeable noises, then ignore everything they say' technique....

Well my dad has just kicked off big time because my little girl's bed time is 8:30, and i wanted to start getten her settled, in her p-jams etc.

She asked for her potty and i told her 'in the morning'. My dad started saying i was a bad mum, not giving her the potty when she asked for it.

They think she is me when i was little because i was out of nappys when i was her age.

'Kicked off'? That doesn't sound good. Do you live with your parents? It sounds like they still feel they are in charge.

I think maybe you need to pluck up courage to have a proper talk with them about how you are the parent now and you will make your own parenting decisions, only asking their advice when you want it. But it won't be easy if they are used to telling you what to do. Were they like this with feeding, sleeping, weaning etc too?

I lived thousands of miles away from my parents when the DCs were little, so didn't have any interference, but moved back to near them when they were 8 and 4 (and I had suddenly become a lone parent). They do sometimes slip back into treating me like a teenager and giving me advice I haven't asked for - but I usually make it pretty clear that I will make my own decisions. I don't actually live with them, though.

(Having said all that, I would think that letting her use the potty before bedtime if she wants to - and actually asks for it - is probably quite a good habit to get into - just don't push it at this age if she's not keen. Or does she use it as a chance to delay bedtime and get attention? And of course you shouldn't just do it because your dad says so!)

I am still at home living with them now, trying to get my own place though.

I have told them loads i need to make my own decisions and learn by my self and i will ask for their help/advise when needed. Yes they are like that with the feeding and sleeping etc.

She like's to use the potty as an excuse to stay up longer and not go to bed when she is ment to, that's why i don't like her to have it just before bed. In the day time i do have it out for when ever she wants to use it :)

I've left potty training until my dd, spotted the pants and asked to wear them. She 3 and potty training has been really easy, because she was ready. No stress all round. I have ignored all the comments about training her any earlier. So far my way seems to be right. :)

It's a very old-fashioned attitude quite frankly......that generation were desperate to get them out of nappies.

My dd didn't start until she was about 2 and a half - we'd moved etc, and the timing wasn't right. She trained pretty quickly though, and I only have a problem at night now - she's 5 - but that's because she sleeps so deeply.

Do it when you feel it's right - you are her mother and you know best.

Good luck

Thank you :)

I probably would let your dd have the potty before bed. However I would offer it to her once at a time of my choosing. I would not allow her to use the potty 20 times at bed time.

It sounds like your lo is doing really well with the potty. She might be ready for pants, but if you are not ready then that is fine.

Children vary a lot. If your dd is ready for pants she will crack it in days. In someways potty training in your parents' house might not be a bad thing. The cr@p will be on their carpet and not in your new home.

Seriously she is your dd and they should respect your decisions.

I will try her with pants see how she goes :)

just thought i would inform you all she had a poo in the potty and a wee in the toilet :)