DS is 2.9. Started potty training before Christmas - went brilliantly and dry within 3 days but after 5 days he got ill, had diarrhea and after an accident on the floor got very upset so we put him back in nappies. Started again 10 days ago. He had totally got it at home within 3 days - would stop playing, go to potty, wee or poo then carry on playing. No accidents, responsibility all his.
Went to nursery on Tues-Thurs. Since then he's gone backwards - takes no responsibility for it. At nursery they seem to encourage them to go lots, so by Thurs he was dry because of all the prompting. Since then, if we prompt him to sit on the potty he usually releases whatever is in his bladder, but if we leave him he just waits until his bladder is overful and then just wees everywhere. We have now also had poo accidents the last 3 days whereas we never had any right from the start.
He is dry in the morning and after naps, so there are no issues with bladder control per se.
So my dilemma is: we can keep him dry if we take him to the potty at 2 hourly intervals. But if we leave it up to him he won't take responsibility so we have accidents everywhere. I think he is over the novelty of it now, and would rather just rely on an adult to tell him when to go rather than do it himself. But because he is strong-willed if we suggest he goes we end up in a battle to get him on the potty - and then he will go.
So do we keep taking him and assume he will work it out again himself. Or do we let him have loads of accidents and hope he works it out that way?