mixed success with day 1 - should we persevere?

[wem]

DD1 is 2.3 and has been showing interest for a while now thought we'd try potty training.

Day 1 so far has had 3 accidents and 2 wees and 1 poo on the potty. Those stats don't sound too bad, but 2 of the accidents were right after we asked her if she needed the potty. At the beginning of the day she was happy to be put on the potty, but has been getting grumpier about it and we didn't want to push it and get her stressed about it. The first wee on the potty was when she said 'I want my potty' so we thought she had a good idea of what was going on, but it hasn't amounted to much.

I'm mostly of the thinking that we should finish what we've started, but if DD1 is starting to get upset about it all could it be counterproductive to stick with it?

Bump

Make that 4 accidents. Been debating just stopping and starting up again in a few weeks

We started 2 weeks ago with DS, who is exactly the same age and felt the same at end of day 1.

He also got grumpy about being hauled to the potty. We decorated it together the next morning and give him stickers when he goes (he's obsessed with Thomas the Rank, so all Thomas related). Also put his favourite toy with the potty. I definitely wasn't making it fun enough and he was picking up on my anxiousness. I mean, why would you go away from all of your toys/activities when you can just go in your pants?! Also, they need he accidents to understand what happens if they don't get to the potty.

Stats sound great and she sounds ready. I think you just have to go for it!

Good luck.

Lol at giving up after one day!

See how you go. I ended up through illness at the time doing the lazy method of potty training, basically take off DS's trousers and pants when he was at home but stick pull ups back on when we went out because I couldn't be bothered staying in all the time, worked well for us as potty training is not just about when they are ready but also when you are ready to put the effort in.

How you getting on after the 2 weeks redllama?

Trying to think about training my ds who is around the same age and would love to know how successful you've been so far?
I'm dreading it!

With DS I had mixed success on Day 1. He'd got it mostly by day 2, and great by day 3. Wees that is, poos were a mare. That took another month and lots of stress, on his part.

DD we tried about 6 times between the ages of 2.5 and 3. The first few times, I persevered and tried for a few days. Then I tried for a day and then I tried for half a day. When she got it, she got it straight away.

So, I would say go with your instinct. If you think she's OK with it, have another go tomorrow. If not, no stress, have another go next month. Plenty of time.

Day 1 is never going to be great. I don't think at this stage you should ask if she needs to go, just make it a regular thing to go and sit on the potty. And make a huge fuss when she does something on it, so it is an exciting thing to her.

Thanks all, I think we'll stick with it. DD2 is only 3 months old so we had been thinking of waiting a while longer, maybe til the summer, but she had been getting interested and showing signs so thought we'd give it a go. But I was a bit nervous about it so had a bit of a wibble when it looked tricky. I know, I'm a wuss :)

Had a better day today - 5 for 5 on the wees, but a bit of a poo in the pants situation earlier.

Feeling very silly for thinking of abandoning it

that is great wem - go wem's DD!

Have only just seen your message threelittleducks. Things are going really, really well now. He's a bit poo-phobic and is only doing them first thing in the morning when his nappy is still on, but is having practically no accidents otherwise. It hasn't been anywhere near as bad as I thought it would actually - the more enthusiastic we are, the more eager he is to go. The travel potty has been invaluable. Someone told me that once I started, I couldn't go back, no matter what happened and I would absolutely second that. So make sure that you're ready to go. Good luck!