How many accidents in early days of potty training

[Orissiah]

Hello,

First proper day of potty training here for DD aged 2.5 years. We've been showing her and talking about the potty for ages and she has picture books about the subject too.

Today we put her in knickers from wake up and it's lunch time now. She's happily sat on the potty and we're praising her for it but so far she's had three accidents all in her knickers - two wees and a massive big poo. We don't chastise her for it, just say "Oh, never mind, we'll try and get it all in the potty next time."

So, two wees and a big poo in one morning on the floor/in knickers. Is this all normal? Shall we keep persisting (without pressure)?

She'll be in the childminders all next week and the CM will continue efforts there.

Thanks.

Sounds to me as if she isn't ready. Unless she is interested and keen to potty train, it's a demoralising long slog in my experience. I tried about that age with my DS and it was hopeless - he made virtually no progress over two weeks. So I stopped, started again when he started telling me he didn't want to wear nappies (he was just 3) and he had two wee accidents in the first week, that was it. He's never pooed in his pants.

The first day with DS we'd run out of pants by early afternoon. He pissed every 5 minutes. It passed but was trying! It really clicked on day 3 - our previous attempt was abandoned after 4 days with no improvement.

Pooing took an awful lot longer to get out of the habit.

Its annoying but it will pass, we tried, we stopped, we tried when everyone else was pt we failed then one day dd came in and said - I am not wearing a nappy. Hey presto.

I appreicate doesn't always happen!

my POV on this that if your aim is to train them to wee in return for a reward - any amount of accidents is fine (though i train in my kitchen with no pants on) because once they learn to wee in return for that reward it is reallyeasy to just take them for a wee at regular points and avoid the possibility of acidents.

although I don't subscribe to the 'just put them in knickers and expect them to understand' school of thought, and put lots of effort into training.

Weeing in the potty yourself to demonstrate, and heavy rewards for them weeing inthe potty both help to ge the point across.

though ladybiscuit most people on here will agree with you probably.

Oh yes, we used chocolate buttons - one for a pee, two for a poo. That bit was DP's idea and I'm not sure I'd recommend it TBH, we thought DS was going to give himself a prolapse! I think if they're ready it's quite quick and easy, if it's just not sinking in then probably best to leave it for a bit. We certainly found that to be the case.

Don't bother with the knickers. Put her on the pot every 20-30 minutes and reward with chocolate buttons when it is used.

I've had to give up temporarily as it looks like she has a UTI from trying to keep the wee in (when she didn't want to go on the potty):-( She's just recovered from a UTI as well. I feel so bad for having started potty training so soon after she got better from a UTI :-(