Toilet training regression?

[NotFromConcentrate]

DS 2 is 2.11, and has been out of nappies for around 2 months (well, during the day. He uses Pull Ups at night). Toilet training was extremely easy, as I deliberately waited until I felt he was fully able to make the transition from nappies to pants without any great difficulty.

However, he fell ill with flu two days before Christmas Eve, and was extremely unwell. I did try to get him up first thing and get him out of his Pull Ups, but unsurprisingly we had several accidents, especially with him sleeping a lot during the day.

He seems fully recovered, give or take a bit of lingering fatigue. Yesterday we went through 5 sets of clothing due to accidents, and today hasn't been much better. The icing on the cake was when he sat at the table this evening and did a poo in his pants, then denied it.

My patience says put him back in Pull Ups, my head says this is a Very Bad move. Please can anyone suggest how I can get things back on track?

I wouldn't got back to pull ups, but i would go back to taking him to the toliet every hour, or at least asking if he needs it regularly and then sending or taking him if he has not gone in the required time ( and you think he may wet himself if he doesn't)

You could reward him at the end of the day, week e.t.c for not having to change him e.t.c

Then maybe reward him for not having to tell him, e.t.c

Also in same situation with my daughter. She was doing great before christmas and had been out of nappies during the day for approx 6 weeks. She was doing great going to nursery n remaining dry throughout the day.

The week prior to christmas the accidents happened a lot more than usual and nursery staff put it down to her being to enthralled in the activities going on.
Over christmas this has gone from bad to worse and is like she has given up the ghost completely and just wee's wherever she see's fit. usually in knickers and pants.

I have sorta gone back to the beginning and started again with training and taking her to the toilet every 30 mins whether she says yes or no is a very different matter.
we go to the bathroom and remain there until wee is done or at least attempted.

Today we drove a 20 minute journey to the supermarket and did a shop. During which she asked to go to the toilet 3 times and wee'd each time on the toilet.
I took her to the toilet as we were leaving the shop and she wee'd and then without even any mention of needing the toilet she had wee'd in her car seat and didnt even tell me she was wet.

I'm at wits end and dont know where to go or what to do next???

madamsmum
I would lay a towel, or a bed mat into the carseat, just to help protect it to begin with, i would then go to the doctors and double check there is no underlying problem like a urine/bladder infection that could stop her being able to control herself e.t.c

How are you reacting when she wets herself, i would remain neutral, ask her to remove her wet clothes, wipe her clean, and then ask her to put on her new clothes. So she isn't gaining any extra attention from wetting herself.

Hi madamsmum, I am going through the same thing with DD, she was fine for months from around her second birthday in June and has regressed badly. After weeks of an increasing number of accidents and always having to make her go and do a wee regularly to avoid any more, on Friday she went through 4 changes of clothes by 2pm. We were just hanging out at home, so certainly not doing anything particularly entertaining or distracting. When we ask if she wants to wear nappies like a baby she says yes, she wants to be a baby! So I feel like I can't win with her feeling like that, I have just let her wear nappies again, make no fuss about it and am hoping she will get tired of it soon.

I am putting my DD's regression down to her baby brother just trying to walk and talk at 12m, a key stage of development that I believe can also trigger jealousy in siblings in the same way as a new baby arriving. DS1 certainly reacted the same way when DD arrived and I think its a classic behaviour. Anything similar going on in your house?

I am trying to give DD more attention in other ways. I don't believe she's doing it consciously (thats how I try and keep calm while mopping up anyway!) but it must be for attention. Its actually much less stressful for me now, she sometimes has asked (in fact insisted) on going to the loo to do a wee and she still does poos in the loo so I don't have to deal with her dirty nappies (yet!) Will see how we go, she is back at nursery on Wednesday, maybe peer pressure will help. It will pass!