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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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DS is ready to be dry at night but I'm not!

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StealthPolarBear · 04/01/2011 22:22

He is still in pull ups and they have been dry in the mornings for as long as I can remember. Apart from when we decide this is it and let him go commando :o He usually has 2 or 3 nights that are ok and then he wets the bed. It upsets him as he wakes soaked from the waist down, and it upsets me as I have to wash his sheets and usually his duvet too (we do have a waterproof sheet which 'helps' by letting the wee spread as far as it possibly could!).
I am not up to trying again even though I know I probably should. How bad is it that he's 99% dry and yet still in pull ups? How long does it usually take until they stop having accidents? I am currently up lots in the night with DD and am resisting doing anything that means I might have to get up for other reasons (no matter how briefly - I usually just dry him down, change pyjamas and take him into my bed, leaving the sheets for the morning).

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wayoftheworld · 05/01/2011 19:47

First you need to cut the drinks for a couple of hours before bed time. While the kid get used to this he still wears pull ups. After few weeks if he is dry for more than a week it worth trying. other wise it seems rather troumatic for both of you.

Hope it works

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StealthPolarBear · 05/01/2011 20:30

But he has been dry now for probably 3 or 4 weeks - do you think I should just go for it again? Drinks don't seem to be too much of an issue - he is still bf before bedtime anyway.
Thanks for the reply

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madwomanintheattic · 05/01/2011 20:35

spb, just go for it. he's ready.
you know it.

but it isn't the end of the world if you need dd to be more settled before you get rid of the pull-ups. ds is obviously not wetting them anyway, so it isn't delaying him being dry.

but think of the money you'll save

wayoftheworld · 05/01/2011 20:50

Well whatever makes your life easy-er! No one can tell you how long the accidents will go, it depends on the child. My DS came out pretty quickly and there were only like a couple of times in 6 months.But my DD is another story all together- she is 6 and still wet the bed at times. I have made the sheets ready and can change them in 2 min while she goes to toilet and changes her clothes.

If your plate is full at the moment you might want to choose another time, if not than stick with it and persevirence might pay off

galleyslave · 05/01/2011 20:54

The answer for me was layered beds. Plastic mattress cover, old towel, sheet. Then on top of that plastic mattress cover, old towel, sheet. Child sleeps on that. Pile of PJ's by the door.

Child wakes wet. Go in room, encourage him to change own pj's while you strip off top sheet, towel, plastic sheet leaving pristine bed underneath. Dump wet pjs and sheets in the bath. Kiss child. voila. I could ALMOST do it with my eyes closed.

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StealthPolarBear · 05/01/2011 21:35

We do do the layered sheets but tbh it doesn't really bother me as it's quicker just to change him and let him in our bed. But the wee seems to run all up and down his legs and everywhere and he gets upset :(
That said he is dry, mostly...
How bad would it be to reuse the pull up :)
galleyslave, I have tried towel & sheet but I find he moves a bit so they tend to be screwed into a ball and no where near him by the morning - do you do anything different? I wonder if I should use a huge towel and tuck it under the mattress - that might work

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galleyslave · 05/01/2011 21:52

I used big old swimming towels, just where his bum would be, crosswise across the bed and tucked in a bit. It worked fine, the sheets are a snug fit though.

I agree the puddles are the worst bit...

Indith · 05/01/2011 22:02

Oh God SPB if A is getting you up loads at the moment just leave it, as long as he doesn't mind the pull up there can't be any harm can there? At some point he'll probably just refuse point blank to wear a nappy.

Dd could probably do it without too much problem and even ds has been dry a couple of times recently but I know the feeling, I am nowhere near ready to try until that is the only thing likely to be disturbing my sleep and not an addition to the nighttime dramas in this house!

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StealthPolarBear · 05/01/2011 22:04

Yeah that's kind of how I feel (anything for an easy life) but then I feel as though I'm holding him back in some way, or just putting off addressing something I should do now. It's hard to describe. I feel (constantly) as though I am letting him down :(

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Littlefish · 05/01/2011 22:12

Is he definitely wetting himself at night, and not in the morning.

I know that sounds like an odd question, but I went through this stage with dd.

She was dry all night, and only did a wee in her nappy when she woke up.

As long as she got up and went to the loo as soon as she woke, she didn't wee in her nappy.

Either way, you're not letting him down.

From what Indith has said, it sounds like you're having disturbed nights at the moment already. Give yourself a break, woman!

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StealthPolarBear · 05/01/2011 22:13

No, on his 'dry' nights, his nappy is still dry when he goes for his first wee of the day. When he does wet the bed it is a drama in the night :o

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StealthPolarBear · 05/01/2011 22:14

I suppose my concern is that people would be very of a person choosing to defer daytime training (for months!) because they were tired or busy.

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mylifewithstrangers · 05/01/2011 22:22

Have you tried the thick waterproof sheets rather than the plasticy ones? Something like these hippychick ones. They are like a thick brushed cotton sheet and not plasticky at all (they don't crackle/rustle either). They are quite absorbent so the wee doesn't puddle and spread out.

When my DD was at this sort of stage, once we finally took her out of nappies (at her request) we had a couple of wet beds, then a longer period where she woud get out of bed dry, but her trousers would be wet by the time she got in to our room. Overall it was fairly painless though (helped a lot by the absorbent sheets).

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StealthPolarBear · 05/01/2011 22:23

ooh they sound good will look into that, thanks

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Indith · 06/01/2011 12:00

I had a thread a couple of days ago asking which were the best waterproof sheets, lots of people said the hippy chick ones were fantastic :)

You are not letting him down in any way, you are a fabulous mother. You are not holding him back in any way either. Having a nappy on clearly isn't making him wet the bed or not be dry since he is dry most of the time, if you want to keep the safety net a bit longer then that is ok.

loonyrationalist · 06/01/2011 12:14

Spb - I reused pullups for Dd1.

Also I am delaying daytime
training for dd2 who is ready. I was going to start after christmas but broke my ankle & tbh although I can just about care for dd1 & 2 potty training would be too much. As I am not allowed ro bear weight for 10 weeks it will be March before I start- woe betide anyone who criticises me;)

To my mind you have an equally good reason for waiting to lose the pullup at night.

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