We're REALLY struggling to train our ds to potty train. I'll admit we've made a few classic errors. For example, we started too early (around 1.5 years, because he insisted on wearing some pants that were given to us in a bag full of second hand clothes - we thought, 'OK, he seems keen, let's go with it' Stupid? Yes?)
He'll use the potty occasionally with me, but only on the very odd occasion with other people he knows well, like his grandma and his dad. But more recently he's been refusing to use the potty more than using it, and has been wetting himself intentionally, and he doesn't mind being wet.
At nursery, he's always refused to use the potty or toilet. In the past he's said he's scared, but he wouldn't say what exactly. I get the impression that he finds the public nature of going to the loo quite hard, and they started trying to get him to use the potty. I also know they've pressured him (IMO) e.g. by getting him to sit on the potty for half an hour and reading him books and encouraging him to wee. I also think that they've become quite jaded with the whole thing, and have clearly lost a lot of enthusiasm. I understand why, because I feel the same unfortunately.
My instinct tells me to backtrack and put him in to nappies for a bit, ease off, and come back to him when he's good and ready, and perhaps when we've got to the bottom of what his anxieties are all about. But everything I read clearly says 'Don't put your child back in to nappies once you've switched to pants'.
HELP!