Refusal to potty train.

[Anymajordude]

DS is 3 this week. We have been trying to potty train for about 6 months now. I've had a go, made a fuss of buying pants and potties, bribed, cajoled, encouraged but failed then put it aside for a little while to try again a few weeks later. DS just flatly refuses to wear pants. He has had success some days weeing in a potty then the next day he'll flatly refuse to use it and then save up all his wee and refuse to go at all until he just wees everywhere. I don't tell him off for this, just say never mind, try again later.

Now I'm more determined, he's getting older and more stubborn. We're snowed in so I've little else to do this week anyway. At the moment I've got to the stage of leaving him naked from the waist down, heating on, potties everywhere but he won't use them. I've got a sticker chart and some sweets. I've got pull up training nappies, told him he can wee in a nappy but he's not wearing it all the time he has to tell me when he's needing. I'm getting lots of complaining and screaming ab dabs about wanting a nappy on all the time. Please, any tips?

No advice, I'm afraid, because my son sounds very similar. Just watching with interest. You have my sympathy!

Thanks bathmum. I've heard people say boys are more difficult to train. Can't see a light at the end of the tunnel yet.

My heart goes out to to you! Going through the same thing with my son. No advice either just sympathy. I dunno about you but It's hard not to feel like you're failing lots of people raise eyebrows after they turn 3 about potty training take comfort in the fact that you're not alone and it's farking hard work!

Well the fact that we've been stuck inside all week because of the snow has given us a breakthrough. I've hated and had to battle for every minute of it. He's now weeing in his potty and even taking his trousers and pants off himself. Still no poo in the potty, he tells me and I put a nappy on him for one. I can't say how much of a relief it is. We've not had an accident all week and we even went for a day out shopping and he was fine. Just a wee in John Lewis toilets.

My advice to anyone is clear your diary for longer than you'd expect and be more stubborn than your kid.

Thanks for the encouragement and I know it isn't over yet, but it is a huge step forward.