4.2 accidents daily, argh

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We potty trained our 4.2 year old 2 years ago and still most days she has accidents and I'm becoming really fed up with it. She doesn't mind walking around with wet pants, she will let some out and then say i need the toilet then it's a big old panic to get there and get her clothes down but actually she's already got wet pants.

Because I am running out of patience I ask her if she would like to wear nappies again and if she thinks princesses smell of wee wee all the time and nothing works. Perhaps totally ignoring would work. I did say this morning, can you get yourself to the toilet whenn you need to go and she said yes. But after she had wet herself she came to me and said that she had got her clothes wet playing with water (she was playing with her dollies in water) but the water had mysteriously only gone in the groin area.

ARGH

Any tips anyone I think I will potty training my other dd soon as she is nearly 2.1 and likes usually the toilet but I don't think I can cope with both of them having accidents every 10 minutes.

HELP

i meant 'using' the toiley not usually

ha ha 'toilet'

Think you probably need to try really hard to make very little comment when she has accident, as she is now trying to make up stories about 'wet pants' and doing so to prob avoid any negative comments. Just a 'never mind, we'll just pop on some new ones' every time she has accident, I know its hard but will hopefully quicken her progress.

She sounds just the same as my ds. He will be 4 in Jan and he just won't go. He holds it in all morning then lets a dribble out into his pants which takes the edge off and off he goes holding it again for another few hours. Drives me mad as he will merrily work his way through 3 pairs of trousers a day. Like you I had a younger one, dd will be 2 in December and she just decided that she wanted to go on the potty and that was it! I too was dreading having accidents from them both all the time but it hasn't been like that at all, dd is great.

At the moment I am tring a reward jar. I break the day up into sections, if pants ar dry at morning snack he can put a piece of pasta in the jar, again at lunch and so on. When the jar is full he can have a new lego toy. We tried reward chart a while ago but he didn't care. So far it is going ok.

Otherwise I think it is just a case of waiting it out. I was talking to someone at toddler group the other day and her eldest was the same, even when she went to school. Now she still holds it in but is old enough to realise that when she is totally desperate she has to go and not dribble! I suppose if ds is still like that when he gets to school he will realise that at school when you wet it isn't as easy as going up to your room for a change of pants.

Thanks for your replies. I'm at the end of my tether to be honest. We've been at home all day today which doesn't help. I asked her to go to the toilet earlier, I could see she needed it but she said she didn't and it took me 10 minutes to persuade her to go it's just getting ridiculous. I think she thinks it is funny.

Rewards don't seem to work with her she just doesn't care and she is so stubborn.

I think i will just have to try not to make a big issue about it but it is stressing me out!!!