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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

dd= 2.5, me= heavily pregnant, should i try to potty train?

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Getoutofmyhouse · 16/11/2010 20:08

My dd is 2.5months. she has used a potty lots of times to wee in, though only once to poo. he will use potty when asked to or if its suggested and if we let her run around naked and remind her all day then she doesnt have accidents.
however, we havent fully commited to this potty training buiness. if shes clothed shes in a nappy and indeed if shes out and about or with her gps she is in nappies.
She didnt and issnt showing the 'signs' of being ready in that she hant asked or sshown in interest in training. she is not really aware when she wees. we only boguht the potty because the hv made me feel inadequate at her two year check - " your STILL not training her. we expect them to start training at 18 months! she should be dry in the day by now! you've not done yourself any favours there'.
tbh I'm reluctant to properly start and commit to it as she can't talk yet (she is on waiting list for speech therapy) and iss still very babyish. add to that the fact that i am very pregnant and tired it feels like a big and seemingly unnecesary mountain to climb.
Should i just do it now - well next week a i start mat leave then- or wait?

any advice appreciated. thanks

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whomovedmychocolate · 16/11/2010 20:15

NO - You can potty train her but bear in mind that as soon as that baby comes, she will revert. I didn't even try with DD till she was over three as she had very little interest in it. Ignore everyone else, in times past nappies were crap and so everyone trained earlier.

Personally I'd tell the HV you don't need help and to butt out. :)

Effjay · 16/11/2010 20:21

No, no! I trained DS1 at 2.2, just two months before DD1 arrived. He was just getting the hang of it when his sister arrived and everything went out of the window. So, for the first few weeks of me having 2 DCs, I was clearing up every wee and poo he did - it was such a mistake to toilet train him when I did. I should have put him back in nappies for a month or two and tried again, but DH didn't like the idea as it felt as if we were going 'backwards' - should have stood my ground on this one Grin. It then took DS1 about a year before he was fully dry. Boys can be a bit of a nightmare toilet training anyway ime.

HV sounds very old-fashioned and a bit MIL ish.

herbietea · 16/11/2010 20:21

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notnowbernard · 16/11/2010 20:22

NO NO NO NO NO

Wait until she is used to the baby etc etc

You really don't want to be cleaning up after endless wee accidents...

Meglet · 16/11/2010 20:25

I wouldn't. Hang on until the spring when she is used to the baby and the weather is nicer for drying clothes. I speak from bitter experience of weeks of winter potty training last year.

The HV is mad.

Getoutofmyhouse · 16/11/2010 20:31

thank you.
I dont feel shes ready yet and tbh i dont feel ready either and she is already showing signs of confusion/insecurity regarding the new baby (she tries to pull me and dh out of the new nursery when we go in there, etc)
I will leave it until after baby and christmas and see if shes ready then.

ANd yes the hv is very ill informed and old fashioned. i KNOW this ( she says the reason for dds delay in speeach is my prolonged breast feeding- i should have cut that out at 6 monthsHmm )- but still when she says things they hit home and i doubt myself.

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Rindercella · 16/11/2010 20:37

No!

DD2 was born when DD1 was 2.7 yrs. I decided to wait until after DD2's arrival and am so pleased I did.

Because of several major events in our lives (and because she just wasn't ready), I started training DD1 about a month short of her 3rd b'day. It took 3 days. On day 2 she had a poo accident and that has been the only one (it's been about 4 or 5 months now since we started). An occassional wee accident, but I guess those happen.

Your HV is truly nuts. Makes me appreciate mine all the more - she very sensibly told me to wait with DD1 as there was no rush. She also congratulated me for breast feeding her for 2 years! Grin

Good luck with the new baby! Smile

fannybaws · 16/11/2010 20:49

No No No you both have enough going on at the moment.
I waited til DS was almost three and it took 24 hours from start to finish.
He was also dry at night a week later.
I am sure it was because he was totally ready.

Effjay · 18/11/2010 19:51

Ditch the HV or ask for another. God knows what other bonkers "advice" she has for you when the second one arrives.

Incidentally, best bit of advice I had from mine was 'Count to Ten' when dealing with the older child. I really, really had to too. BTW they get on really well now, so it paid off.

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