DS 2.7 refusing to wee at nursery & holding it in ALL DAY. Help!

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Title should say it all really... he will pee in the loo when at home (with bribery - stickers and sweets) but flat refuses to do a wee at nursery. We started potty training a while ago but stopped because he was holding wee in when he was in other places, and once was in such agony he was screaming, until I took him home and put a nappy on him (he did an enormous wee so must have been in a lot of pain). After that he said he wanted to wear nappies again so I thought 'why not? maybe he's not quite ready'. Now he wants to wear big boy pants all day, but simply will NOT pee at nursery. The other day he wet himself there twice, which I thought was a lot better than holding it in. But today when I collected him they said he hadn't peed all day. It really worries me. This is surely really bad for him, am I right? What on earth can I do to help him overcome this fear? I really don't want to stress him out about it when he's already obviously quite stressed about it.

Ideas, please?

Oh, and he's NEVER done a poo in the loo. He will specifically ask to have a nappy on in order to do a poo... but that feels like the least of my worries at the moment!

2.7 is young to potty train so he's still only little. My Ds1 was over 3 when we started and he used to hold it in all day and as soon as I got to nursery to collect him would tell me he needed a wee! Can you ask if one member of staff can be allocated to him with this? Someone he likes? Do they have a potty or a seat insert he can use there? If not take your own. Again lots of coaxing, sticker charts at nursery and lots of praise and he will get there eventually. My DS did the same and didn't have any side effects. Good Luck

My DD has a similar issue and the HV suggested that I put a nappy inside the potty until she got used to it. Now to be fair, this hasn't worked for her, but it might do for you?!

Another suggestion was to put her hands in warm water while she sat on the potty (I used a bowl with some toys in to make it a game) which again didn't work for me, but might for you!

What did work for me was to give her lots to drink and lots of salty snacks (not something I usually do!) to have a diuretic effect, she simply couldn't hold on for that long, then when she was weeing I shoved a potty under her and made a big deal of the fact she'd got some in, this seems to have been pretty effective in helping her get over the fear. Another thing I've done is to stop making a big deal out the whole thing, I've backed right off, told her it's her body and her potty and she can decide when she wants to use it. Fully expected her to ignore it completely, but yesterday she managed 3 poos and 2 wees which is frankly miraculous.