another 'should i give up' thread

[bamboobutton]

i started training ds (2.8) about a month ago. everythin went fine to begin with, he loved his big boy pants and loved going to pee in the potty.

problem is is that he won't go anywhere but at home. he won't go at grannys house, won't go anywhere in public and will hold it in until he wets himself or we get home, he also insists on being totaly naked when he does use the potty

he also refuses to poo in the potty and holds it in and shrieks until a nappy is put on him.

don't know what to do really. he knows when he wants to pee and poo but i can't spend forever in the house with a naked toddler, i need to buy food and stuff!

another thing is is that ds has just been on a 6 day holiday away with dh and dh had him in nappies the whole time so i'm back to square one anyway.

Someone please answer this! Almost exactly the same as the thread I just posted!! HELP!

You could try putting nappies on him when he's out of the house until he's completely confident, and just carrying on getting him to use the potty at home. When I potty trained my DS (he was 3.5 at the time), we'd just do an hour or so a day initially with pants, and just increased it gradually. We'd stop at the point where one of us had had enough. Used to take him out in cloth pullups for ages (well a couple of months) after he was reliable at home. I marketed them as 'special going out pants' so he didn't feel babied by having a nappy on. Switching between the two didn't seem to confuse him at all though. I took the mindset really that since I wouldn't have expected him to learn to walk overnight, I wasn't going to expect him to unlearn using nappies straight away.
WRT the poo, if you're using disposable nappies can you cut the crotch out of them until he gets used to pooing in a potty?

Leave it till his third birthday at which point it is THE LAW that you're not allowed nappies in the daytime. In exchange you get presents.

Re the poos - bribery can work well.

thanks for the replies. i think im going to put him back in nappies for a while, we're going to be moving house soon so i'll wait until we have settled in there and i will try SWMNBN's book.

We were in a similar position with dd, and we stopped for a couple of months and then went back to it. She was fine.

Although she did wet herself on the Party Bus (!) last night. But then, who wouldn't

For poo's our HV said to blow bubbles to relax your child. Reading books on the toilet helped our dd (we had to sit for a while tbh) but it was worth it in the end.

We had an attempt at training, failed, left it for a few months - got there in the end.
Big bribe helped - DD was fine with wees but wouldn't poo in the potty, I promised her a scooter. It wasn't that that swung it in the end, but it helped to reward her when she finally got there. Good luck!

I have just trained DS who is also 2.8. Poos were a nightmare. He was terrified and screaming. bribery rewarding worked very well.

He had a star chart for wees and special stickers (Postman Pat) for poos. When he got a certain number of Pat stickers, he got a treat (a car in DS's case), then I have been making it more and more Pat stickers until I am going to run out of cars. I chocolate button after a successful poo has worked well also. I bought a book called Zoo Poo about animals pooing at the zoo (funnily enough ). DS thinks it is great and within a couple of days, stopped pooing in his pants and asks to use the toilet.

I have only been training him for 2 weeks.

We have bought a Potette for when we are out. He hasn't been telling us that he needs a wee whilst out yet. Luckily we have only had one accident which was the first time we took him out and we were in a toy shop. We either get him to go before or when we are out, take him off to sit on a toilet or pot and go. If it has been a couple of hours, we can generally tell that he needs to go and he will if we sit him down on a pot somewhere.

I second the reading books whilst sat on the potty too. One morning we were sat for over an hour and a half on and off. DS clearly wanted to go but was holding it. In the end he did go.

Prob best to settle in the new house first though, for you. I have read that a big change like moving can regress them anyway.