doesn't feel the urge or just plain lazy?

[jandmmum]

DS is 3 in November. He essentially potty trained himself with regards to poos last Christmas and had had only a hand full of accidents with poo since. We started PT in April and he seemed to progress quickly going from peeing every 10 min to going hours within a couple of days. He can stay dry all day but only if I pit him on the potty at the right time, sometimes he will go on easily, sometimes he requires bribary and sometime plain refuses. He has only told me he needs a wee a couple of times and each time I was so happy I gVe him masses of praise. However if I ever ask him if he needs a wee he will always say no and can sometimes have an accident minutes later and sometimes when the potty is right next to him. I usually try to stay really calm and ask him why he didn't go in the potty. He usually just says "oh" and looks really disappointed, and he knows that if he goes of his own accord he is going to get a sticker and 10 stickers he will get the toy he asked for but he's still not doing it. Sorry this is very long winded but what I'm wondering is it possible he just isn't feeling the urge before it is too late? He has recently started asking for pull ups too after months in pants.
we did have a new baby 2 months ago and I expected some regression but he actually seemed to be better for a while and now gone back to how he was preDD

I think he knows when he needs to wee, but isn't ready yet to be a big boy; as he is asking for pull-ups. Perhaps it has just sunk in that baby DD is really here to stay and not just here temporarily! This is quite a common regression.

As he can wait for so long between wees I think he has good control, however, deciding where to do that is also under his control. I suspect he feels he will get more attention from you by wetting himself than by accumulating stickers. It is attention he wants, not toys.

This may sound weird to you, but you could try holding DD on a potty on your lap, and encourage DS to sit on one at your feet at the same time. Ask him to see which can do a wee first! The theory is that he won't feel singled out if the baby is doing it too. He will have your attention at the same time, and massive praise if he 'wins'! I suggest a time when you're not rushed and can take your time. You can say that DD is only little, but DS is such a big boy that he needs to show her what to do.