DS turned 3 last week. Has always been a highly stubborn and sensitive little soul. Although I bought a potty and loo seat ages ago to get him used to seeing them around, he's always declined any invitations to sit on them. Then, a few weeks ago, he suddenly announced that big boys don't wear nappies, and he wanted to have pants. So, we designated today 'pants day'.
All pretty disastrous so far. We put him in pants this morning - fine. But he is just utterly refusing to sit on the loo seat or potty and gets upset if I try to use any persuasion at all. He's only done 2 accidents so far, so he's clearly been holding his wee in a bit. He didn't enjoy having the accidents, but he seemed to find the prospect of an accident less upsetting than the prospect of actually sitting on the potty or the loo.
I just don't know what to do. There's a strong temptation to put him back in nappies (esp as I also have a six week old baby!), but I strongly suspect that if I do that, I will never get another chance to train him (he's that type of child). And he hasn't asked for nappies - he just doesn't want to use the potty or loo. I've tried every sort of bribery I can think of, but he just firmly says 'no', he doesn't need a wee, and he doesn't want to try sitting on the potty or loo.
What should I do? Do I just keep letting him have accidents and hope that he'll eventually start being willing to try using the potty or loo? Do I make the bribery more forceful (e.g. no TV unless he at least has a go at sitting on the potty)? He's been a tantrummy nightmare all day, so he's clearly stressed by it all, and I hate seeing him get upset - but I just don't know how to handle it!