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Is he just not ready?

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wintergirl · 28/09/2010 10:17

We tried potty training at the beginning of August - DS was very keen and after a full day of peeing on the carpet we started to have more pees in the potty/ toilet than on the floor. He found poos trickier but did manage a few in the potty. All went ok for about 3 - 4 weeks, there were some accidents but a lot of "hits". Then one day he peed himself a couple of times at nursery, didn't think much of it that evening, but the next two days (at home) he just stopped using the potty/ toilet, it was 100% on the floor/in his pants. We tried chocolate buttons, stickers but he just stopped being interested at all. I got to the point where I just couldn't stay calm, I did really shout once and all the rest of the time I think, though I wasn't cross it must have been clear from my body language that I was angry :( It seemed like we were going backwards so we thought we should maybe give us all a break which we did for a few weeks - he did occasionally ask for his potty (and pee in it) when he saw another child doing it. Thought we'd have another go again over the weekend. He has mainly peed and poo'ed all over the floor/ friends floor/ me/ pants. I do believe that he can pyhsically do it, after all he did, but that makes it even harder to keep calm, but I wonder if there is any point pushing something he clearly doesn't want to do and it making both of us miserable. Does leaving it (again) reinforce that it is optional, or does it simply mean it gives him time to be ready in his own time. I don't know what to do for the best

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smallwhitecat · 28/09/2010 10:23

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wintergirl · 28/09/2010 10:35

He's 2.9 years, so old enough I think. What you say about accidents becoming the norm rings some bells,and I do think he is not that bothered about being wet, or perhaps he just doesn't say because I have got cross with him before?? We have tried prompting him at regular times but he always says "no" even when he is clutching himself and obviously desparate. If we take him to the toilet/ potty at this point he screams, cries and it feels like it becomes a real battle of wills. Our HV told us to take him regularly to the potty but he refuses and gets very upset, I have tried bribery but he just refuses point blank. That was our reason for having a break, we felt it was getting too heated a battle and that that would only be counterproductive, but then when we tried again after a break it was still disasterous

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smallwhitecat · 28/09/2010 10:48

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wintergirl · 28/09/2010 17:35

That last bit made me laugh, that was exactly what happened to us on Sunday! Yes, he is big enough for the proper toilet, we actually started with that for wees and he was quite keen to be like DH but then started asking for the potty and then not at all. I like the idea of lots of nice things in the loo, perhaps I'll decorate it with Thomas the Tank Engine posters :) Anyone got any other tips?

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