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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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AIBU to doubt friend!

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babber · 27/09/2010 15:32

Hiya - now I know that there is no ?normal? when it comes to pretty much anything in this parenting malarkey but as my DS is not yet at potty training stage I really don?t know anything about this! I am just slightly confused about how you know when your child is ?ready? Basically, I am looking after a friends DS on Thursday and Friday. He is 2.3 and she has just announced to me that he is no longer in nappies but wearing just pants now?. This was after he had wee?ed all over her in the park ?.
So I have been instructed to keep taking him to the loo every half hour or so (she is bypassing the use of a potty to save time later) as he won?t necessarily say he needs the toilet, he?ll just go. Now I am now worried about Thursday and Friday! I will have my 16 mo DS as well and had planned a few activities but they all involve leaving the house and going on buses etc.
I have expressed my concerns to my mate who has just said ?it will be fine I?ll put lots of extra clothes in case of accidents??.
My point is this: if he keeps weeing and pooing himself and not telling you he wants the toilet does that not just mean hes not ready yet? It seems like a bit of a pain to me to have to keep going to the loo every half an hour just to make sure? I don?t want to say this to my friend unless I have a bit of advice from here as like I said, I know nothing on this topic and perhaps this is the best way to toilet train!

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MoonFaceMama · 27/09/2010 19:46

sounds like she's using a slightly more elimination communication technique. Normally used much earlier though (normaly starting before six months while the child still has an instinct to "keep the nest clean" and can be "trained" to eliminate on cue. Sorry, very poor explaination, try google). I can't blame her for going this way, it's what people have done for ages. We ec but i wouldn't expect anyone to take my ds nappy free at the mo, he's only seven months. I think if you take him to the loo every half hour you'll be fine. This is what we do with ds (part time tbh) though obv if you don't ec it can seem a pita. I guess i'd go with it this time and maybe think again before taking her ds in future!

LadyBiscuit · 27/09/2010 19:49

Oh god I would never leave my child if he wasn't actually potty trained. How are you going to leave the house? I think that's very unfair of her (whatever technique she's using).

And most children I know who were 'trained' using ec became dry at exactly the same time as those of us who use conventional methods but I appreciate that's not a terribly popular view

MoonFaceMama · 27/09/2010 20:07

ladybiscuit ec isn't solely about being clean and dry early, though this is sometimes a happy consequence.

LadyBiscuit · 27/09/2010 20:36

I know it isn't :) It's a lot more complex but I've never heard of someone starting it at that age - seems a bit cack-handed and muddled between the two

belgo · 27/09/2010 20:40

Are you sure he keeps weeing and pooing everywhere? Maybe he had an accident in the park because it was just a different place? Accidents during potty training are a normal part of potty training and if you put a nappyback on them 'just in case', then it can cause them to get confused.

2.3 is not young to be potty training, it is perfectly normal age for potty training.

Maybe ask her to put washable pull ups on him?

zapostrophe · 27/09/2010 20:46

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MoonFaceMama · 27/09/2010 20:48

i agree it seams neither one nor t'other but just wanted to open up the possibility of a "training" method that didn't rely on a contemporary, conventional idea of "readyness" iyswim.

jamaisjedors · 27/09/2010 20:53

If he is not 100% reliable AND you have a 16 mth old to look after as well, it's a bit unfair to ask you to look after him and go to the loo often.

We did a form of elimination communication with our two and in the first couple of weeks of potty training took the DSs to the loo A LOT... but then they were dry day and night pretty much 100% after a couple of weeks at 2.2.

I am NOT a believer in "waiting til they are ready", as far as I can see this was pushed by disposable nappy manufacturers and has added more than a year of nappy wearing to a lot of children.

MoonFaceMama · 27/09/2010 21:02

i think you are right there jamais.

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babber · 27/09/2010 22:43

thanks everyone - i don't mind helping my mate out and its only a couple of days... will just have to have mop and bucket on standby i guess!!!
(have already warned her that when it comes to the time for my DS to potty train, she knows where i'm sending him!)
by the way i have no idea what ec is - this is the first i've ever heard of it and would be pretty surprised if my mate had heard of it either - i think she's just decided he is ready now...

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DetectivePotato · 05/10/2010 09:58

I have started potty training DS and he is doing brilliantly. He does have 1-2 accidents a day however, we are only on day 6 now though. I don't believe in taking them out of nappies then putting them back on for anything other than sleep times (unless they show that they really are not ready yet).

Accidents are very normal. I do believe in waiting until they are ready though. We have done this with DS and he was going without us asking him by the end of the first day and we don't need to ask him now. Haven't been out too much yet so that will probably be a different story but I won't be putting him in a nappy or pull ups (don't agree with them at all, children don't use them as pants at all) because of occasional accidents.

naturalbaby · 06/10/2010 14:51

blimey, i would stick my ds in nappies if he was going to be looked after by someone else for longer than a few hours! we're still at the inbetween stage though so he's only reliably using the potty at home - and then mainly cause he's only wearing pants and a top so it's easier for him to go or for me to chuck him on a potty if he's about to go. i tried putting ds on the loo every 1/2hr or so but he can hold it in for hours. the only reliable way i know when to take him is after he's had a massive drink, then he practically floods the potty!

on the other side of it, if that's what she does and that's what she wants then have mop&bucket and lots of cloths handy (and coffee and chocolate)

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