Can someone answer my silly questions?

[tryingtobemarypoppins2]

1: DS sleeps 3 hours in the afternoon. Nappy always seems rather wet when waking normally.
Q) Do I use a pull up?

2: I just know DS will have a tantrum if I ask him to go to the potty mid game/soft play/playing with pals. Is this why you stay home for a week? Q) What do you do if this continues??

HELP!!
Thanks ladies!

If nappy still wet for naps I would leave it on for sleep even if potty-training is going well when awake

Some people hate pull-ups, I think they're ok personally

If he is prone to tantrumming/refusing to go when he needs to I would say he's not quite ready yet

If you leave it until he is REALLY ready you don't need to stay in for a week!

How old is he?

1. I would say nappy or pull-up it doesn't matter, but don't worry about wetting when he's asleep - that takes them longer to master.

2. I didn't stay home for a week and cannot fathom how anyone can bear to - I'd go mad. Once you're sure he's ready, don't ask him to go. Use pull-ups, and take him to the toilet regularly - whenever you go, before and after every meal, every trip out, etc. If the pull-up is dry and he goes in the toilet, lots of praise and fuss/sticker chart/choc button or whatever reward you like. If not, don't make a big deal of it, just carry on.

If he's playing for a long time, do something like have a snack break and say he will get the snack after you've both been to the toilet, but be matter-of-fact about it.

In this way, IME, eventually you get a fully toilet-trained child in pull-ups, then you swap to proper pants. There may be the odd accident after that but not the week of weeing on the floor that some people seem to go in for.

On the sleep thing I've been putting DD in pull ups for sleep/naps but that is mainly because she point blank refused to wear nappies when she got the general idea. She's now very reliable when awake so the pull ups don't seem to affect it.

He is 2 years 9 months. The trouble is nappy free at home almost all wee is in the potty but the moment we go somewhere else or do something like toddler group he totally refuses (we go there in a pull up :(

We have only been doing this a few days. He is quite an anxious child. Today we were at a family BBQ and he totally refused to go to the loo and have a go. Even with chocolate bribes :(

Anyone?

If he knows you want him to go, and he knows he can refuse (especially with an audience!) and you make a big thing of it, you're basically handing him power on a plate.

Don't wheedle and cajole him to go. Just be matter-of-fact, say OK we are going out, time for the toilet (and you go too - and saying "oh looks I'm going to be there first! I'm winning the toilet race!" worked well on my DS) - or oh look dinner is ready, toilet and hand wash first - as if it's normal, unremarkable and just routine. If he says no say "OK, but maybe next tie you will have a go and a wee will go in the toilet and you'll get a sticker/button/etc., that would be nice eh?" ' - then drop it.

If it's really not happening then leave till later. My DS was over 3, it's quite normal.

Thank you MarineIguana.....I need to chill out don't I?!

Yes! Don't feel bad - if you relax it will be easier for you as well. As someone said to me - he won't be going to university in nappies.