Won't wear nappy, won't use potty or toilet?

[Tamsin72]

Hi everyone

So, as the title suggests, my 2.5 year old dd has started refusing to wear her nappy but won't use the potty or toilet.

I've tried going along with her, but she just wees whereever and will not sit on the potty.

It's a battle to get her to sit on the potty or the toilet and she gets so distressed we normally give up.

what should we do?

She will ask for a nappy change when she's filled it, so she's got some awareness, but just says that potties and toilets are dirty and she won't use them.

any suggestions please?

DS1 was really straight forward and I expected dd to be really easy too but she's not!!

thanks.

t

maybe the question to ask is why your little one gets 'distressed'. My guess is that she is picking up your feelings of anxiety, which although you may try to hide it, can leek out.
I wonder if she is your first child? sounds as if she may be. Maybe stop making it an issues for a few days, and put her in pull ups not nappies, if its the old nappied you are using. I used to take my wee ones to the loo with me, and talk about what I was doing, while saying this is what you will do when you are a big girl. Its not easy I know, but the last thing to allow to happen is making an issue of it. I promise you she will decide when she wants to in the meantime, you are the adult and she the child;you can take control in ways that dont make loo visits an issue.

Hi thanks for your reply. I know what you're saying about the anxiety. She's my youngest, my older son had no problems at all with potty training and I expected her to be the same. That's probably where i've gone wrong!!! We're a really open family, so she sees us all in action on the loo.

We have had her in pull ups for about six months now and I've moved onto the huggies training nappies in the hope that these might help....

I think you're right about leaving it for the time being so will give that a go.

thanks again.

t

Try encouraging a potty routine. Make it something that you all do so its no big deal. First thing in morning, before you go out, when you come home, before meals, before bath and before bed. Insist that its a normal time to try and it doesn't matter if nothing comes out. You could consider going down the bribary route too. A little choccy button for every success can work wonders to get things started.

Hi, this is a long shot as I know this was a while ago but can I ask what you did to get over this? My toddler is doing the exact same thing now, he refuses to wear a nappy but also refuses to sit on the potty properly and go. I’m stuck because it’s turning in to a situation where he gets really upset and pees on the floor. It’s causing stress around the issue as he is so adamant he doesn’t want to do either and I just don’t know what to do. If you do get this message can you let me know. Thanks