20 months old refuses to go to sleep and cries for potty instead

[Zidonie]

After a lot of pee and poo on the floor in the first couple of weeks, DD is now asking for the potty whenever she needs it, which is great.

However, getting her to sleep at night as become a nightmare. I soon as I put her to bed she stands up and cries that she needs a poo or a wee. I know this is not true because when I take her to the potty there she doesn't do anything.

Has anyone experienced that? I do not know if she is genuinely distraught at not being able to use the potty, or if she's just using a new trick to delay bedtime.

Sleep has always been an issue with her. Control crying never worked and I spend an hour getting her to sleep every night. Any idea how I could deal with that situation?

Isn't she wearing a nappy at night? It sounds like a new tactic to delay bedtime to me.

Is she in a cot or a bed?

Yes, she is wearing a nappy at night - she needs it!
She is still in a cot - if she had a bed she would get up a thousand times in the evening before going to sleep...

My ds did this but he was slightly older (25-26 months). I put him in a bed with a potty on a mat just outside the bedroom door. He was allowed to sit on the potty or be in bed but I didn't talk to him or engage with him the way you have to if you are lifting him in and out of the cot. It is almost certainly a delaying tactic but it is unreasonable to expect a potty trained child to wee in nappies so you are not far off having to put her in a bed anyway. I tried to keep ds in a cot as long as possible but he just took off his nappy and weed on the cot (and carpets and walls).

reading posts with interest as we are going through similar with DD, 21m. She has taken it upon herself to potty train and takes her nappy off during the day to poo or wee. As we feared, she has now started taking her nappy off at night. This has coincided with new bedtime antics of being able to climb out of her cot. While we wait for bunkbeds to arrive (so she can share a room with DS) we have resorted to putting a potty in her room so she can climb in and out of bed as she pleases!
We have to put a nappy on her once she has fallen asleep.... I can't see any other way round this at the moment?

I agree with spanx that telling her to do in her nappy while I tell her all day long to use the potty sounds odd. I think the time to put her into a bed is coming but DH and I are a bit worried about her being able to get up while we're asleep so are trying to delay it.

I am trying to explain to her: potty is for daytime, nappies are for nighttime. Last night bedtime has gone relatively smoothly, I allowed her one shot at the potty and then ignored her requests after that.

VandT maybe your DD is ready to be dry at night as well? I think it's rare but not impossible.