OK, we're doing well at home but always having accidents when we go out - any advice?

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We're definitely making progress at home (the tictacs as bribery method) - one accident yesterday, none so far today. BUT on the three outings we've done without nappies she has always wet herself - twice in the pram and once in the playground, just doesn't seem to get that she has to tell me she needs to go on the potty. Am going completely mad cooped up at home but equally don't like the stress of wondering if she's going to wet herself any minute in the supermarket/friend's house/library etc She had a class thisi morning so I put her in pull=ups but I know it's a bit of a mixed message.

Would be very glad of any advice.

Thanks

Dont worry, she will learn. The same thing happened to me with dd 3.4 at first, but she is very good at holding now. Carry a travel potty, and just keep telling her that if she needs a wee or poo she has to tell you. I personally would get the thicker training pants for out, they absorb more wee and keep it in and less fall back. Take you dd to the loo before you go, and mabey get her to sit on the travel potty when out.

Thanks v much piglet - hope you are right and it will come. Thing is she gets v cross if I tell her to sit on the potty when she doesn't want to/need to and I don't want to pressure her and create any bad associations so I've been taking her word for it that she doesn't 'need' to go before going out but then she will say 'no' when asked and wee 5/10 mins later. We do have a couple of pairs of training pants will try to keep those for outings. Also she doesn't seem keen on the travel potty at all.

Just been out for a walk and DD wee'd on the pram for the third day in a row - she didn't even tell me this time. But when I saw she was wet I asked if she'd done a wee and she said yes, didn't seem the slightest bit bothered by the wet shorts/pants because we had to wait for another 15 mins before getting home and changing her. How do I, without getting cross with her, convey the message that the pram is not for weeing on?

Also I have put a towel on the pram because I don't want to have to scrub it every night. Wondering if she sees this as a signal to just wee on it? If so, is there a more subtle alternative - really don't want to end up with a pram smelling of wee.

My dd does not like the travel potty, but does wee before we go out, nor does she like any toilets other than the ones at home. As the weeks have gone by i have seen an imporvement, she used nursery toilet and used my friends toilet. Get training pants, don't force her and keep cleaning up. You can get pampers disposable changing matts that I use for the car seat or buggy so when they are wet just throw away. Its patience I am afraid, if she is fine at home that that's great, she will learn in time. Dont put back in nappies.

I also took various pictures of dd, in a nappy, as a baby, her big girl pants, her potty and toilet seat, her with wet pants, her sitting on toilet, her wee/poo, and her in big girl pants. I put them in a photo album and made up a little story detailing the transition from baby wearing nappies to using the toilet and being in big girl pants, it worked, she loves the book. Worth a try. Oh and chocci buttons each time she does a wee before going out and in the toilet too. This worked wonders for dd.

Thanks v much piglet - the book sounds like a brilliant idea. Re the choc buttons, I've been using bribes as I said but a bit worried that she'll become dependent on them and eventually refuse to use the potty without them - how did your DD deal with that? Does she still asks for treats when she goes or is she used to going anyway now?

Yippee! Went to the park this afternoon and DD told me that she wanted to do a wee then, after a bit of faffing and me trying do 'the hold' and getting it wrong she agreed to a wee on the travel potty. Didn't think a wee from a 2-year-old could ever be this exciting! Not v impressed with the potette plus though, it seems to collapse every time DD sits on it unless I hold her up. Anyone else had any experience of it?