Losing all sense of style PP

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I am 6 weeks post partum and I’m constantly in a button down pyjama top and wide leg loungers or just cheap black leggings. I’m not back to pre pregnancy weight / shape with huge boobs breastfeeding so most of my pre pregnancy stuff is out of bounds for now but I don’t even have time to online shop for a glimpse of my old style in a larger size

Currently (and rightly so!!) 100% of my time is being given to my baby. He screams whenever I put him down, he will only sleep in our bed or on my chest. My husband is out the house working Mon- Fri from 7am to 7pm. We take it in turns to eat dinner whilst one of us holds baby. I manage to have a long shower in the evening whilst he holds baby too but it’s not long until he’s crying for my boob again.

when did you start feeling more yourself in terms of fashion post partum? And is it normal to still be in loungewear after 6 weeks? I don’t know why it seems like such a milestone to have everything ‘better’ by then.

Admittedly my dress sense was tied a lot to my identity and not everyone is like that. I’d wear linen skirts, stylish sandals, or in winter leather ankle or knee high boots and wool coats. Now I’m in one pair of adidas trainers whenever I need to shoot out. It’s just not me at all, (there’s nothing wrong with that) but I just feel totally different and if I didn’t have a baby people would think that I let myself go because it’s so starkly different to how I looked before.

I guess the real question is - will my baby become less needy in time so I can slowly take care of myself a little more? I love being a mum but I’m also looking forward to feeling more of a ‘woman’ again too.

Personally, I tried throughout the first year, but sometimes had to give in and accept that I was too tired to put much effort in, or that it was easier to wear a certain outfit so I could feed the baby etc. It was hard to eat well and shift that extra bit of weight. But things have gotten easier since baby turned 1 (he's now 14 months), I've lost the extra weight, can wear what I want again and feel more myself. Sounds quite sad but it's quite exciting tbh after almost 2 years (including pregnancy) of being fat and tired 😂

Hi
I totally get this. To be honest the way I looked is and always has been really important to me and if that makes me shallow then fine 😂 when I was breastfeeding (I did so for a year) my boobs went from 28E to a 32 HH and I looked absolutely ridiculous in everything. Like you I just opted for lounge wear. I also put on a lot of weight and dressing just didn’t feel fun anymore. My son is now 2 and I am back wearing pretty much everything I did before - just less often because I don’t go to nice places as much! I do think your style changes a bit but not necessarily in a bad way I think I dress a bit more ‘grown up’ now. Don’t worry op it all comes back but you are so so so early on try not to let it get it you down! X

I had a Velcro baby too and I think at 6 weeks I was pretty much just dressing like you.

If you’re struggling for time to shop, can you give LO a big feed, with some Breast Compressions so that you know he’s nice and full, then get DH to change him and take him for a walk for an hour?

Tbh I was in loungewear for most of my maternity leave unless I had to leave the house (and some of it worked for that too), despite having lost weight during pregnancy to morning sickness.

Why don't you look online and order some stuff to try on at home? And get yourself some really nice loungewear so on those days you still feel a bit more put together?