Weeks ago, I told my dh that I thought I perhaps had pnd. Since then, he’s not asked how I am at all. I am feeling very hurt.
i am 5 months pp with my second and have been feeling extremely flat and irritable a lot of the time - and also weepy around periods (on my 3rd).
the baby is a dream and how I am feeling is definitely hormonal. With hindsight I think with my first I had (thankfully mild) postpartum psychosis where I had some religious delusions etc.
about a month ago around my last period we had a big fight. Everytime we go out, he just can’t seem to handle the toddler or rather just lets things get really chaotic. I end up looking after both while he looks after his own needs (ie getting food etc). This particular time both children started getting a bit tantrummy and tired and I said to dh we need to sort the bill. Half an hour later we are still waiting on him paying and he’s ordered me a coffee and isn’t wanting to bother the staff by asking for the bill. But obviously happy to massively inconvenience his entire family. When we left I said I was hurt he didn’t listen to me. He left me in the street with both children and stormed off. I was probably being a bit of a dick too but his behaviour is like having a third child. I was so upset I thought about going away for the night with the children but couldn’t for various reasons. I also thought of killing myself which I have had in the past but would never act on. For ref I am on sertraline already. When we came back he basically made out that I was in the wrong. So petty and so stupid but it was around then I felt like something isn’t right with me. His behaviour really didn’t help but I mentioned to him I thought I might have pnd.
fast forward to today we have an identical argument. He threatens to storm off but I manage to stop him. I’ve just avoided him all day. Then it occurs to me he has not asked once how I am doing. For ref he’s not someone who can’t handle talking about mental health. He talks about his own all the time. He has a therapist but I’m guessing he hasn’t mentioned any of this to them. I did say today he hasn’t asked me how I am and now he’s just acting like nothing has happened.
i also realised I mentioned pnd to a few friends and also zero asking how I am.
sorry for the saga, I just don’t have anyone irl to talk to this stuff about irl it seems. I’m not sure what I’m asking. And please be gentle. I am obviously quite fragile rn and can’t take any mn harshness.