Struggling with my postpartum body

[Stardust127]

Hi

I didn’t really know where to post this - but I think here is maybe the best place.

I am 4 weeks postpartum (3rd baby). I had a difficult pregnancy and hated how my body changed. I didn’t feel this way with my other babies. Now I’ve had the baby I still feel so grossed out by my body and the thought of my husband seeing me naked makes me want to run away and hide. I have what feels like a prolapse (but isn’t - it’s just my vaginal wall swollen apparently) it’s a big bulge in my vagina and it’s disgusting. I don’t think it’s going to go away either. Not only would it make sex very difficult (I’m assuming) but I’m also so disgusted by it and the rest of my body that sex is completely off the tables for god knows how long. My husband isn’t bothered about that at all. He doesn’t see a problem with my body and isn’t concerned about not having sex, he says there’s more to a marriage than sex.

has anyone else felt like this?

Hi @Stardust127 first congratulations on your new arrival 🥰

I am also feeling exactly the same! I am 5 weeks postpartum and today going for a walk I almost didn’t go as I feel so disgusted by how I look.
Im trying to appreciate my body as it carried my 2 children.
I lost a lot of weight years ago and before I fell pregnant last year I was fit and slim, but I’ve gained a lot of weight during pregnancy, I had very bad pelvic pain during this pregnancy and I stopped me being as active. I just look at myself and feel back to 2020 when I was at my heaviest and so miserable in my body…..it’s like I’m back there and it hurts! I also found it hard watching my body change and comments from people saying how big I am etc didn’t help!

I also had a 3B degree tear so between that and how I feel my body looks I just feel terrible about myself!
My husband is the same, loves me and no matter how I look and he’s very caring and patient thankfully.

Im sorry to hear you feel this way but you’re not alone, I think we are very fresh postpartum and everything will settle down and hopefully in a few months we feel ourselves again.

sending you love ❤️

Congratulations!

I’m 9 months pp with DC2 and feel the same although it has got slightly better since I started dieting and home workouts a few weeks ago. I bounced back pretty much immediately with DC1 I thought it would be the same with 2nd but nope! 4weeks is so so early but I must say I felt the same as you then too..but it does get better if you put your mind to losing the weight / toning up. Are you getting out everyday? I found that I dreaded going out but I always felt better afterwards. Sending hugs x

I think it’s fairly common. Sex drive is a movable feast and it’s not surprising your sex drive is on the floor and you’re not feeling like your body is your own right now. You’re only four weeks post partum. It’s more likely than not your feelings will change as the months draw on. Try not to worry about it while you have so much else on your plate right now.